The last few trips we have taken, either up to our son's house or further to an out-of-state place, hubby packs his own bags. On each of those trips, he has come up with an extra pair of shoes that do not match! He ends up having to wear the shoes that he has on for the week or weekend.
Yesterday while cleaning the closet I found these above. Two lefts and a right with no partners. I have no idea where the partners have gone and I have asked various relatives to keep an eye out. I have asked hubby to use a shoe bag, but he throws them in the back and I am afraid as he pulls out suitcases they have been left on the parking lots of various hotels.
Nobody tells you about this in the books on dementia.
I am not a patient person and I think what little patience I had I used when nurturing my children. Children will change and learn or understand what you want. Sadly forgetting does not change.
As fall moves on he has less to do. His volunteering in the food garden as well as work in our own vegetable garden keeps him busy in the good weather, but this time of year, things begin to be put to rest. He is a very energetic person.
My mother-in-law had dementia which grew quite bad over the years. But she was a lovely quiet lady who liked TV and looking out the window and eating food. She never felt an urge to go somewhere, although we did take her on day trips with us.
My husband needs tasks and chores. and sadly, he is not of the engineering mind or the artistic soul. I do suggest simple things around the house and he says he will do them, but he forgets and then spends time trying to find something to do!
I am thankful for his excellent sense of direction and his ability to still drive. I am thankful for his desire to watch the same programs that I like on television and for his desire to read which I also love. We still can canoe and boat. (Except for the motor on the boat...another story for another day.)
He can still fry an egg omelet (lightly brown) for his breakfast, or fix a bowl of cereal.
If I accept the two or three questioning interruptions in my life each day, he is able to use the cell phone and his laptop, and I pray they quit changing the interfaces of APPs! We do spend time looking for his cell phone, but we have done that for years!
Thanks for letting me vent (share) or write about this as I find my way throught he forest.