Pretty lazy or busy or whatevah...but encourage you to read and see if you agree with this argument about the liberal media.
Wednesday, August 07, 2013
Monday, July 29, 2013
One Night In Baltimore
Baltimore is an interesting and dynamic city. It is also a dangerous city. One can wander just a few blocks off center and find themselves in communities of extreme poverty, communities that are mostly black, and communities where people will fix your car if it breaks down on their street and then drive it away. There was a TV drama show called "The Wire" about crime and the drug trafficking in the city of Baltimore which got positive critical review for its honesty and acting. It was dark and gritty and the kind of thing us white folks in our safe little homes watch with interest as we might watch a train wreck or analyze cultural diversity.
All of the ugly racism which has crawled out from under our dirty beds and is being displayed on Facebook, Twitter and talking head news shows brought back a memory of something that happened to me a few years ago in Baltimore. It was a very short incident, and had the city and the character types been different, it would not even be a memory. I searched to see if I had written about this before, but could not find a related post.
The time of year was August. Hot town summer in the city. My husband and I had taken this lengthy drive to celebrate an anniversary. He was taking me to a favorite fancy restaurant in this town. I was dressed up more than usual and had shiny swinging earrings and more make up on than I normally wear and was in a dress-up mood. We had been ignored by our kids for the better part of the summer, and as a reassurance, we were purposely going to celebrate the end of the summer like we used to so many years ago.
We were driving on a brightly lit street downtown in a main tourist area of the city where the weekend evening traffic was picking up. We came to a red light and hubby stopped the car. I glanced over to my right at the car next to me. Inside were four twenty-something black men. Their hair was in crazy shiny dreadlocks and one had gold earrings and their heads were bobbing back and forth to some music I could not hear. One of the men said something funny and they all threw back their heads in laughter, their brilliant white teeth like tiny flashlights against their dark black skin in the dark car. They were having a really good time.
I instinctively broke into a broad smile perhaps feeling glad that others were also in a good mood on this evening. (Perhaps in the back of my mind hidden way deep somewhere, I realized they might be drug gang members and carrying guns inside or high on cocaine or ecstasy, but this thought did not surface to the front of my mind.)
The driver instinctively turned mid-laugh to look at me. Our eyes connected for one of those seconds that seen to last for ten as we both sat just a few feet from each other, our proximity almost creating a personal space. The whites of his eyes were as bright as his teeth. He clearly saw my smile but I could see he was registering my race, my age and my attitude and so many other things in that second and evaluating me and what I had seen. I did not stop smiling and since my smile was not some fear-filled reaction but a true feeling of enjoyment at their fun, he suddenly grinned an even bigger grin and tilted his head to me in greeting as the light changed and we both pulled away, hubby making a left turn and the car filled with black young men driving on.
I have no idea what I am trying to convey by writing about this incident. I am not saying I am some sweet person who can see the good in all and help change the world with a smile (although why not?), or that drug dealers are balanced folks and just need the reasonable smile of some old white lady, or that black men with dreadlocks and earrings and nice cars are even always drug dealers! Maybe they were Ravens players! Maybe they were DJ's heading to a wedding?
I guess I am just saying that I wished the world was always like this. Nonjudgmental and gracious and ending with peaceful departures.
All of the ugly racism which has crawled out from under our dirty beds and is being displayed on Facebook, Twitter and talking head news shows brought back a memory of something that happened to me a few years ago in Baltimore. It was a very short incident, and had the city and the character types been different, it would not even be a memory. I searched to see if I had written about this before, but could not find a related post.
The time of year was August. Hot town summer in the city. My husband and I had taken this lengthy drive to celebrate an anniversary. He was taking me to a favorite fancy restaurant in this town. I was dressed up more than usual and had shiny swinging earrings and more make up on than I normally wear and was in a dress-up mood. We had been ignored by our kids for the better part of the summer, and as a reassurance, we were purposely going to celebrate the end of the summer like we used to so many years ago.
We were driving on a brightly lit street downtown in a main tourist area of the city where the weekend evening traffic was picking up. We came to a red light and hubby stopped the car. I glanced over to my right at the car next to me. Inside were four twenty-something black men. Their hair was in crazy shiny dreadlocks and one had gold earrings and their heads were bobbing back and forth to some music I could not hear. One of the men said something funny and they all threw back their heads in laughter, their brilliant white teeth like tiny flashlights against their dark black skin in the dark car. They were having a really good time.
I instinctively broke into a broad smile perhaps feeling glad that others were also in a good mood on this evening. (Perhaps in the back of my mind hidden way deep somewhere, I realized they might be drug gang members and carrying guns inside or high on cocaine or ecstasy, but this thought did not surface to the front of my mind.)
The driver instinctively turned mid-laugh to look at me. Our eyes connected for one of those seconds that seen to last for ten as we both sat just a few feet from each other, our proximity almost creating a personal space. The whites of his eyes were as bright as his teeth. He clearly saw my smile but I could see he was registering my race, my age and my attitude and so many other things in that second and evaluating me and what I had seen. I did not stop smiling and since my smile was not some fear-filled reaction but a true feeling of enjoyment at their fun, he suddenly grinned an even bigger grin and tilted his head to me in greeting as the light changed and we both pulled away, hubby making a left turn and the car filled with black young men driving on.
I have no idea what I am trying to convey by writing about this incident. I am not saying I am some sweet person who can see the good in all and help change the world with a smile (although why not?), or that drug dealers are balanced folks and just need the reasonable smile of some old white lady, or that black men with dreadlocks and earrings and nice cars are even always drug dealers! Maybe they were Ravens players! Maybe they were DJ's heading to a wedding?
I guess I am just saying that I wished the world was always like this. Nonjudgmental and gracious and ending with peaceful departures.
Thursday, July 25, 2013
Miscellaneous Opposites That Meet When World's Collide
(I could not come up with a complete Thursday 13...for some reason this goal always eludes me. If you want to see how an expert plays the game check out Colleen's posts on Thursday 13 Days!)
That cute little ten-year-old ring bearer in the gray suit in those earlier wedding pictures that I posteed looks so precious and gentlemanly, doesn't he? He walks like a careful dancer across the grass holding the hand of his baby brother. At 10:00 P.M., when his family was leaving after the wedding celebration, the same young man left the front door of the country club, took a weird sharp left skip down the driveway and proceeded to fall to the ground and tear open a nice hole at the knee of this $75.00 suit and cut himself a nice knee wound as well. So this is the way that one gets wear and tear out of a new suit! The same new suit was used for his first communion just the month before, so I guess it got some use before he outgrew it.
My friend, who is on my landscape committee, has some concerning health problems, one of which is migraine headaches. She has been taking botox injections in the forehead which have reduced the pain substantially. BUT she mentioned that she feels weird because she cannot raise her eyebrows even though she thinks that she is trying to convey an expression. We also cannot tell if she is in a good or bad mood anymore!
On the evening of the 21st and the early morning of the 22nd of this month, my husband and son passed on planes in the night as they both crossed the Pacific Ocean going in opposite directions. One on his way back from a honeymoon vacation and one on his way to work on a project.
I am allergic to cats and even looking at them can make my eyes itch. Yet, I have decorated my powder room in cat art. (I am sure I have posted this information before...bear with me!)
My sage was dying from too much rain and it started to recover and now it seems to be dying from too little rain and too much sun! I though herbs were easy to grow.
I am alone for 10 days while hubby is on travel. I wish I could say I was alone. I have a lawn keeper that I must meet with tomorrow, I have a meeting the day after that with my volunteer group, I have another meeting two days later that I am covering for my husband where I have to help teach gardening to children. Others days are FILLED with so many errands and activities! I was actually viewing this as a vacation time not having to cook. So naive!
It is so charming watching the little goldfinch balance so delicately on the sunflower heads in my garden. His acrobatic poise and gentle pull on each little seed is fun to watch and then he mushes up the seeds like the hungry bird he is. It is not so cute when the annoying furry chunky squirrel climbs the sunflower stem and proceeds to snap the stem with his fat belly bending the whole plant to the ground while he goes for the entire head mushes it up permanently! (A photo post on my other blog will document this tragedy.)
I purchased a container of half and half the other day. When I was younger half and half meant half milk and half cream, but the label said it was 'fat free'! I did not realize I had purchased this until I got home because it looked like the regular container of half and half. Well, it is half skim milk and corn syrup and thickening agents...meaning it may still thicken your waist and has nothing to do with cream although it tastes almost the same. It is opposite of what I wanted to purchase and I hate the way marketers lie to us.
I have grown more addicted to all those British mysteries on TV these days. Please read the following in a nice British accent. "Why you might ask do I add this to my list. I dare say, they do pass the time for one such as I on a warm summer night and the opposites that they bring to the evening are lovely cottages with bunches of pastel flowers hanging over rustic stone walls followed by entry into a room with a well-stocked library and a prone body usually covered in crimson blood."
And my final news that I discovered this week is that space Scientists have provided a photograph of the tiny earth next to Saturn's rings from that distant telescope at a fun new angle from so many miles away. Our planet is just a spark of light in the photo. You and I are so small in the grand scheme of things. But, for additional perspective, science also has discovered a new virus that is 1,000 times larger than any virus known to man and 80% of its DNA is brand new to us. Science keeps looking inward and outward and finds many new miracles.
(only 10...can you come up with the rest?)
That cute little ten-year-old ring bearer in the gray suit in those earlier wedding pictures that I posteed looks so precious and gentlemanly, doesn't he? He walks like a careful dancer across the grass holding the hand of his baby brother. At 10:00 P.M., when his family was leaving after the wedding celebration, the same young man left the front door of the country club, took a weird sharp left skip down the driveway and proceeded to fall to the ground and tear open a nice hole at the knee of this $75.00 suit and cut himself a nice knee wound as well. So this is the way that one gets wear and tear out of a new suit! The same new suit was used for his first communion just the month before, so I guess it got some use before he outgrew it.
My friend, who is on my landscape committee, has some concerning health problems, one of which is migraine headaches. She has been taking botox injections in the forehead which have reduced the pain substantially. BUT she mentioned that she feels weird because she cannot raise her eyebrows even though she thinks that she is trying to convey an expression. We also cannot tell if she is in a good or bad mood anymore!
On the evening of the 21st and the early morning of the 22nd of this month, my husband and son passed on planes in the night as they both crossed the Pacific Ocean going in opposite directions. One on his way back from a honeymoon vacation and one on his way to work on a project.
I am allergic to cats and even looking at them can make my eyes itch. Yet, I have decorated my powder room in cat art. (I am sure I have posted this information before...bear with me!)
My sage was dying from too much rain and it started to recover and now it seems to be dying from too little rain and too much sun! I though herbs were easy to grow.
I am alone for 10 days while hubby is on travel. I wish I could say I was alone. I have a lawn keeper that I must meet with tomorrow, I have a meeting the day after that with my volunteer group, I have another meeting two days later that I am covering for my husband where I have to help teach gardening to children. Others days are FILLED with so many errands and activities! I was actually viewing this as a vacation time not having to cook. So naive!
It is so charming watching the little goldfinch balance so delicately on the sunflower heads in my garden. His acrobatic poise and gentle pull on each little seed is fun to watch and then he mushes up the seeds like the hungry bird he is. It is not so cute when the annoying furry chunky squirrel climbs the sunflower stem and proceeds to snap the stem with his fat belly bending the whole plant to the ground while he goes for the entire head mushes it up permanently! (A photo post on my other blog will document this tragedy.)
I purchased a container of half and half the other day. When I was younger half and half meant half milk and half cream, but the label said it was 'fat free'! I did not realize I had purchased this until I got home because it looked like the regular container of half and half. Well, it is half skim milk and corn syrup and thickening agents...meaning it may still thicken your waist and has nothing to do with cream although it tastes almost the same. It is opposite of what I wanted to purchase and I hate the way marketers lie to us.
I have grown more addicted to all those British mysteries on TV these days. Please read the following in a nice British accent. "Why you might ask do I add this to my list. I dare say, they do pass the time for one such as I on a warm summer night and the opposites that they bring to the evening are lovely cottages with bunches of pastel flowers hanging over rustic stone walls followed by entry into a room with a well-stocked library and a prone body usually covered in crimson blood."
And my final news that I discovered this week is that space Scientists have provided a photograph of the tiny earth next to Saturn's rings from that distant telescope at a fun new angle from so many miles away. Our planet is just a spark of light in the photo. You and I are so small in the grand scheme of things. But, for additional perspective, science also has discovered a new virus that is 1,000 times larger than any virus known to man and 80% of its DNA is brand new to us. Science keeps looking inward and outward and finds many new miracles.
(only 10...can you come up with the rest?)
Wednesday, July 17, 2013
So Lucky
I am lucky today.
It is 4:00 in the morning and still dark outside, but I know it is a lucky day for me.
I look down at my polished toes that rest on the coffee table.
I can wiggle my toes, I am so lucky.
The coffee pot beeps three times to let me know that my coffee is ready.
I can clearly hear its high pitched call.
I am so lucky.
I can smell the rich liquid from the next room.
I am so lucky.
I listen carefully and hear my husband's gentle, regular breathing through the open bedroom door.
He can breathe, I am so lucky.
The fan above my head whirs mixing the cool and warm air across my skin.
I am so lucky.
I stretch fully and can feel the pull off every muscle.
I am so lucky.
There is a new Cook's Illustrated magazine to explore at my side.
I am so lucky.
There are chores to do followed by the reward of accomplishment and need.
I am so lucky.
There is a day of crazy photos and events to peruse posted by crazy Facebook friends.
I am so lucky.
There is another day to live vicariously through my exotic Blogger friends scattered all over the planet.
I am so lucky.
The first light of the sun is teasing and tickling my photographic eye.
I am so lucky.
I have been given another rich day.
I am so lucky.
Monday, July 15, 2013
The Big Day
Eventually the big day arrived. We got up early to head to the country club to deliver cookies, the arbor (homemade by the father of the bride--SUCH a do-it-yourselfer) and the sashes and buttons. The bride taught everyone how to tie on the sashes which were purchased and how to add the buttons (homemade by the mother of the bride). We had 165 chairs to cover!
We walked around outside to decide the exact placement of the arbor and tree table and the aisle for the chairs which were to be put out by the rental company in the early afternoon. Two tents, one for the string quartet and one for the soloist, were already up. Then the 'girls' were off to get their hair and faces done.
Some of us looked much better than others.
Some of us were fascinated with our new shoes.
But at weddings, once the show is underway, we are all beautiful. I took so few pictures, because as the mother of the groom I really did want to take time and enjoy the ceremony. My small point and shoot camera was acting up in the humidity and so got only this blurred photo of my daughter.
And above it the ring bearer, the flower girl and the animal rights activist...all my grandchildren from the sweet lady above.
...and the handsome groom waiting for the bride.
The happy married couple exchanging vows.
The centerpieces were wine bottles that had been saved with wine cork votives. The flowers were simple but elegant in a fresh way.
And then we danced till...the DJ went home. He was a great DJ and got everyone out on the floor. Below in the last photo is hubby and son putting on some moves. No photos of me, I am waiting for someone to send me some that show the dress. But thus far just one portrait that doesn't show hair or dress. The mother of the groom is not a photo opp it appears!
As an aside, hubby's suit jacket and tie were off by the third dance!
We walked around outside to decide the exact placement of the arbor and tree table and the aisle for the chairs which were to be put out by the rental company in the early afternoon. Two tents, one for the string quartet and one for the soloist, were already up. Then the 'girls' were off to get their hair and faces done.
Some of us looked much better than others.
Some of us were fascinated with our new shoes.
But at weddings, once the show is underway, we are all beautiful. I took so few pictures, because as the mother of the groom I really did want to take time and enjoy the ceremony. My small point and shoot camera was acting up in the humidity and so got only this blurred photo of my daughter.
And above it the ring bearer, the flower girl and the animal rights activist...all my grandchildren from the sweet lady above.
...and the handsome groom waiting for the bride.
The happy married couple exchanging vows.
The centerpieces were wine bottles that had been saved with wine cork votives. The flowers were simple but elegant in a fresh way.
And then we danced till...the DJ went home. He was a great DJ and got everyone out on the floor. Below in the last photo is hubby and son putting on some moves. No photos of me, I am waiting for someone to send me some that show the dress. But thus far just one portrait that doesn't show hair or dress. The mother of the groom is not a photo opp it appears!
As an aside, hubby's suit jacket and tie were off by the third dance!
Sunday, July 14, 2013
The Devil Is Too Dumb to Mess with the Details When I am in Charge
(I will post this today although I am in an extremely angry and sad mood. Another murderer has gone free and I do want to caution all parents of teenagers to make sure they get only slightly tanned this summer, to not wear that new sports hoody if a cooler breeze from a storm comes up, to not take any shortcuts on their way home, to not confront someone who asks if they are where they should be while shopping, to not attempt to defend themselves if a vigilante person pulls a gun (which he no doubt did), and to make sure they call the more erudite friend on the phone if they want a witness and advice on the altercation prior to their death. Do not doubt that it is now open season on young black men by those who want to hunt them down, because if you have been robbed by a black man, then all are suspect.)
Okay, take a deep breath, and lets get back to documenting this wedding for posterity.
I lucked out big time on this new daughter-in-law and her very nice parents. You cannot pick your relatives nor can you pick the relatives of the daughter your son marries, but these folks are the salt of the earth and just plain good. All of the extended family seems to follow that pattern. They are also big do-it-yourselfers. They know the value of a dollar and do not waste a penny.
Thus the rehearsal dinner (for which we were responsible) was held at a rustic Pavilion in a state park. At the suggestion of my son's in-laws we selected an Italian deli to provide the food. This meant they did not serve...just provided big boxes of food and serving utensils. We were responsible for dishes, utensils, glasses, napkins, etc. There were 80 people invited to the dinner and about 65 showed up. I have to admit that while I am not rich, I am not poor, and tend to want to just write a check if I am giving a party for 80 people. But this was not meant to be. The food arrived in what are called 'hot boxes' and have to be carefully placed over warming trays filled with water that sit above heating candles. The relatives did most of this while I was doing something else...decorating the room. (I am not in this photo although I wish I was that thin.)
I put on my moving sandals (the gal above is the sister of the bride) and spent the better part of the evening decorating. We covered the picnic tables with some marvelous green paper (exactly matched one of the brides colors) that is used by metal workers to protect their floors and was purchased at the MIL's office. I had purchased country flowers which we place in mason jars that the parents had from another event. They had some lovely rustic lanterns that had come from a friend's wedding and we used those also.
This rustic sign was placed to direct folks from the parking lot and I smeared the names to remain anonymous.
Lemonade and iced tea were made and placed in beautiful serving containers on end tables, sodas were placed in coolers that had been filled with ice and we turned on the fridge in the pavillion for more space for cold water and salad and fruit trays. The park did not allow alcohol which was a little disappointment to the beer and wine fans, but not a terrible sacrifice as the food was wonderful. We had stuffed pasta shells, BBQ pork, lemon chicken, baked beans, cheese potatoes, mixed green salad and mixed fruit salad. Homemade cookies and bakery purchased pastries were placed on platters for dessert. Yes, I did spend time replacing the large aluminum trays of food when they were emptied and we did do some juggling to get them over their warming trays without burning ourselves, but we all survived. One of the aunties worked part time as a caterer and she and her husband were the perfect helpmates.
There were several full trays of food left over and I had asked the bride's family if they had a food pantry that would take prepared food. They went me one better. The next day they delivered the food to a good sized family shelter! The shelter was so pleased to be getting so much good food that they said it would last several days and they would be eating really well.
The rains came and went ever so lightly, but we were mostly inside. The bugs were nasty out by the parking gate and the gatekeepers (we had reserved parking but most people tried to ignore the sign!) used lots of OFF which did not seem to help much. One of the bouncers (actually a guest) came all the way from Scotland, can you tell who in the photo below? In the Pavilion, which was screened,we remained bug free.
Good food, good people and only one late best man to the rehearsal dinner which made for a lovely rehearsal dinner evening all in all.
Okay, take a deep breath, and lets get back to documenting this wedding for posterity.
I lucked out big time on this new daughter-in-law and her very nice parents. You cannot pick your relatives nor can you pick the relatives of the daughter your son marries, but these folks are the salt of the earth and just plain good. All of the extended family seems to follow that pattern. They are also big do-it-yourselfers. They know the value of a dollar and do not waste a penny.
Thus the rehearsal dinner (for which we were responsible) was held at a rustic Pavilion in a state park. At the suggestion of my son's in-laws we selected an Italian deli to provide the food. This meant they did not serve...just provided big boxes of food and serving utensils. We were responsible for dishes, utensils, glasses, napkins, etc. There were 80 people invited to the dinner and about 65 showed up. I have to admit that while I am not rich, I am not poor, and tend to want to just write a check if I am giving a party for 80 people. But this was not meant to be. The food arrived in what are called 'hot boxes' and have to be carefully placed over warming trays filled with water that sit above heating candles. The relatives did most of this while I was doing something else...decorating the room. (I am not in this photo although I wish I was that thin.)
I put on my moving sandals (the gal above is the sister of the bride) and spent the better part of the evening decorating. We covered the picnic tables with some marvelous green paper (exactly matched one of the brides colors) that is used by metal workers to protect their floors and was purchased at the MIL's office. I had purchased country flowers which we place in mason jars that the parents had from another event. They had some lovely rustic lanterns that had come from a friend's wedding and we used those also.
This rustic sign was placed to direct folks from the parking lot and I smeared the names to remain anonymous.
Lemonade and iced tea were made and placed in beautiful serving containers on end tables, sodas were placed in coolers that had been filled with ice and we turned on the fridge in the pavillion for more space for cold water and salad and fruit trays. The park did not allow alcohol which was a little disappointment to the beer and wine fans, but not a terrible sacrifice as the food was wonderful. We had stuffed pasta shells, BBQ pork, lemon chicken, baked beans, cheese potatoes, mixed green salad and mixed fruit salad. Homemade cookies and bakery purchased pastries were placed on platters for dessert. Yes, I did spend time replacing the large aluminum trays of food when they were emptied and we did do some juggling to get them over their warming trays without burning ourselves, but we all survived. One of the aunties worked part time as a caterer and she and her husband were the perfect helpmates.
There were several full trays of food left over and I had asked the bride's family if they had a food pantry that would take prepared food. They went me one better. The next day they delivered the food to a good sized family shelter! The shelter was so pleased to be getting so much good food that they said it would last several days and they would be eating really well.
The rains came and went ever so lightly, but we were mostly inside. The bugs were nasty out by the parking gate and the gatekeepers (we had reserved parking but most people tried to ignore the sign!) used lots of OFF which did not seem to help much. One of the bouncers (actually a guest) came all the way from Scotland, can you tell who in the photo below? In the Pavilion, which was screened,we remained bug free.
Good food, good people and only one late best man to the rehearsal dinner which made for a lovely rehearsal dinner evening all in all.
Friday, July 12, 2013
If You Are Getting Married, Remember the Dirt!
More than ready, I had packed everything, including the new summer wear that I had purchased at the Dressbarn. (I only shop at the most fancy places.) I had gone to the big mall, but the high end shops did not have anything that appealed to me. Instead I bought a black and emerald green Capri pants and top set that looked pretty good with my newly smaller figure. (I lost only a little weight, but with Spanx I looked better than I had hoped.) I also bought a bright orange outfit for the rehearsal dinner which was a BBQ at a state park. In the event that you did not get the memo...oranges and blue greens are the 'in' color this year. It was hard to find anything in other colors!
Son had to ride up with us and could not leave from work earlier than 4:30 in the afternoon which meant we faced a 6.5 hour drive in the evening. Shortly as we were heading out of the city, the bride texted Son about an errand. Son turned to Dad and asked if he brought the 'dirt.' I looked at hubby's blank expression.
"Remember, Dad, I asked you to bring some dirt from the yard."
"Dirt?" I responded. "Why do you need dirt?"
Hubby continued to look blank. Hubby is not a good person for details.
"The Union Ceremony," son replied.
I gave him a confused look.
"You know, like lighting the candle? We are planting a tree."
I began to feel like I had missed a good part of this wedding ceremony already. Should have I packed garden shoes and gear instead of the jewel toned summer wear?
Well, we did not have any dirt from the yard and were already an hour and a half from our home. Son had not grown up or even lived in our current home, anyway. So, hubby, who is a master at fixing his forgetfulness, left the freeway and pulled into a side street by a small stream that ran by the high school where son went so many years ago. I had clean doggie doo-doo bags in the glove compartment which had been useful for grandchild baby diapers. We pulled far off the road and Son went tromping along the weeds down to the stream and collected dirt into the little bag and was soon back in the car and we were once again on our way.
We got in just before midnight and the bride-to-be picked Son up at our hotel to take him back to her parents home about five miles away, which is a bit of a modern arrangement, is it not? We checked in and found our room through the mouse maze of a newly remodeled hotel and collapsed on our beds for a restorative sleep before the busy days ahead.
This "tree planting" union ceremony glitch was not yet over, though. The next day we discovered that the Mom and Dad of the bride had purchased a tree at the local greenery. It was the smallest one they could find and was over 4 feet tall. Too tall to place on a side table at the ceremony. You can see the tree table just behind the bridesmaids in this photo. Not a good idea for a large tree!
Eventually it was decided that they would dig up a burning bush that had been replanted from her grandmother's yard the year before. It was very healthy. It was the right size. It came from her 90-year-old grandmother's yard AND from her parents yard. We could work with that symbolism. You can just see it between the two bridesmaids on the left of your computer screen in the above photo. I will briefly explain another glitch was the rains at the in-laws house had forced an ant nest into the bush pot and we had to contend with that before bringing the plant to the ceremony by soaking the whole thing in water for a few hours. (I really should have packed garden gear and clothes!)
Now if I can just keep it alive in these torrential downpours until they return from the honeymoon...
Son had to ride up with us and could not leave from work earlier than 4:30 in the afternoon which meant we faced a 6.5 hour drive in the evening. Shortly as we were heading out of the city, the bride texted Son about an errand. Son turned to Dad and asked if he brought the 'dirt.' I looked at hubby's blank expression.
"Remember, Dad, I asked you to bring some dirt from the yard."
"Dirt?" I responded. "Why do you need dirt?"
Hubby continued to look blank. Hubby is not a good person for details.
"The Union Ceremony," son replied.
I gave him a confused look.
"You know, like lighting the candle? We are planting a tree."
I began to feel like I had missed a good part of this wedding ceremony already. Should have I packed garden shoes and gear instead of the jewel toned summer wear?
Well, we did not have any dirt from the yard and were already an hour and a half from our home. Son had not grown up or even lived in our current home, anyway. So, hubby, who is a master at fixing his forgetfulness, left the freeway and pulled into a side street by a small stream that ran by the high school where son went so many years ago. I had clean doggie doo-doo bags in the glove compartment which had been useful for grandchild baby diapers. We pulled far off the road and Son went tromping along the weeds down to the stream and collected dirt into the little bag and was soon back in the car and we were once again on our way.
No pre-wedding jitters from him as you can see in the photo above. He slept most of the way, hubby drove, and I took photos of the changing weather front across Pennsylvania, hoping it would settle down in the coming days for the outdoor wedding.
We got in just before midnight and the bride-to-be picked Son up at our hotel to take him back to her parents home about five miles away, which is a bit of a modern arrangement, is it not? We checked in and found our room through the mouse maze of a newly remodeled hotel and collapsed on our beds for a restorative sleep before the busy days ahead.
This "tree planting" union ceremony glitch was not yet over, though. The next day we discovered that the Mom and Dad of the bride had purchased a tree at the local greenery. It was the smallest one they could find and was over 4 feet tall. Too tall to place on a side table at the ceremony. You can see the tree table just behind the bridesmaids in this photo. Not a good idea for a large tree!
Eventually it was decided that they would dig up a burning bush that had been replanted from her grandmother's yard the year before. It was very healthy. It was the right size. It came from her 90-year-old grandmother's yard AND from her parents yard. We could work with that symbolism. You can just see it between the two bridesmaids on the left of your computer screen in the above photo. I will briefly explain another glitch was the rains at the in-laws house had forced an ant nest into the bush pot and we had to contend with that before bringing the plant to the ceremony by soaking the whole thing in water for a few hours. (I really should have packed garden gear and clothes!)
Now if I can just keep it alive in these torrential downpours until they return from the honeymoon...
Wednesday, July 10, 2013
Exhaling
The mother-of-the-groom is back, her house is empty of relatives, the wedding photos are waning on FB from all the friends of the bride and groom, tons of food has been eaten in both states, and people are finished with reviewing how - beautiful, cute, funny, energetic, loving, young-looking, young-acting, well-behaved, wonderful - everyone was.
Back at the house only oneargument hot conversation ensued on a conservative/progressive review of how education is handled by public and private institutions. It was between a brother and brother-in-law, and they both were actually in agreement on about 90% of the argument, but couldn't see that. It flared and the fire died and the rest of the visit went without incident.
The bride and groom are landing in Australia as I write this...both for some snorkeling/diving on the Great Barrier Reef...then touring other parts of the country and ending up in Sydney. They are taking three cameras...so I get to live vicariously in a few weeks.
Today I have about 60 loads of laundry to do and hope to get back into an exercise routine...although I no longer have the motivation of fitting into the fancy dress. Photos? You are asking for photos? I did not take any of myself, but maybe someone will post one or two soon. Soon, after I have adjusted to the landing, I will write about the glitches and stitches that come with a wedding ceremony with 100's of details.
Back at the house only one
The bride and groom are landing in Australia as I write this...both for some snorkeling/diving on the Great Barrier Reef...then touring other parts of the country and ending up in Sydney. They are taking three cameras...so I get to live vicariously in a few weeks.
Today I have about 60 loads of laundry to do and hope to get back into an exercise routine...although I no longer have the motivation of fitting into the fancy dress. Photos? You are asking for photos? I did not take any of myself, but maybe someone will post one or two soon. Soon, after I have adjusted to the landing, I will write about the glitches and stitches that come with a wedding ceremony with 100's of details.
Monday, July 01, 2013
Where Did I Leave That Guidebook
I was sitting watching the movie "Lost in Translation" on television this week. (I had vacuumed and mopped the kitchen floor, washed the cupboards, made cookies, cooked some marinated pork for later easy BBQ...all for the impending company and I needed a movie break.) I had seen this movie originally at the theater years ago and fell in love with it at that time. It is so well written and acted and so different from what one expects in a love story. If you have ever been on a business trip to a foreign country or traveled with your spouse on such a trip or spent time on lay over in a country where you are killing time, this movie so expresses that lost feeling and that time for re-evaluation of where you are in living your life. I have been to Japan several times for various reasons and all of the scenes in this movie reminded me of those trips in some way.
Trying to figure it all out, trying to absorb the culture, trying to understand the culture, trying not to be so homesick, trying not to be so different, and being away from your familiar home as if on another planet and feeling a misfit and re-viewing what you want out of life and what decisions you have made thus far is kind of what what this movie is all about. The lead man is Bill Murray playing an over-the-hill actor who has adjusted to fame and wealth, but is at that time in his life where he can see the world through the un-rose colored glasses. He sees people as they are and with casual humor moves through each day with equanimity. The lead woman is Scarlett Johansson who throws a wrench in that movement. I do not know if this was her first big movie, but I had never seen her before in anything and her charisma and charm and earthiness is all over the place. She plays the young end of the lost generation. She has followed her famous singer husband to Japan and finds herself spending most of her time waiting for him in a hotel room and trying to find herself. These actors could not have been better cast. They both come across as real people who through no fault of their own find themselves living in some exotic artificial emptiness and who are able to find each other in that maze growing toward a solid friendship. It is far from a traditional love story.
Well, perhaps, I have not made this movie sound as interesting as it is. It is all about values, self-awareness, shallowness, and people who are 'stuck'. We have all been there and most of us survive that period, and some of us jump off a cliff and find ourselves face down on the concrete.
Guess what? I think that this is my first movie review!
Trying to figure it all out, trying to absorb the culture, trying to understand the culture, trying not to be so homesick, trying not to be so different, and being away from your familiar home as if on another planet and feeling a misfit and re-viewing what you want out of life and what decisions you have made thus far is kind of what what this movie is all about. The lead man is Bill Murray playing an over-the-hill actor who has adjusted to fame and wealth, but is at that time in his life where he can see the world through the un-rose colored glasses. He sees people as they are and with casual humor moves through each day with equanimity. The lead woman is Scarlett Johansson who throws a wrench in that movement. I do not know if this was her first big movie, but I had never seen her before in anything and her charisma and charm and earthiness is all over the place. She plays the young end of the lost generation. She has followed her famous singer husband to Japan and finds herself spending most of her time waiting for him in a hotel room and trying to find herself. These actors could not have been better cast. They both come across as real people who through no fault of their own find themselves living in some exotic artificial emptiness and who are able to find each other in that maze growing toward a solid friendship. It is far from a traditional love story.
Well, perhaps, I have not made this movie sound as interesting as it is. It is all about values, self-awareness, shallowness, and people who are 'stuck'. We have all been there and most of us survive that period, and some of us jump off a cliff and find ourselves face down on the concrete.
Guess what? I think that this is my first movie review!
Follow-up
As a follow-up to my post below, it appears my blogroll on my sidebar is now working. Do not know what the on/off glitch was yesterday. So the death of Google Reader is not to be mourned.
Sunday, June 30, 2013
Technology Tweaking is Tantamount to Torture
Well, I ignored all the news blurbs on Google Reader and the concerns by select bloggers recently, because I try to keep my internet social activities to a minimalist experience when discussing coding. I have not felt any need to make my blog commercial or to make sure it is discovered by many readers. In my cases and with my subject matter, that effort usually results in more spam rather than more insightful comments from new readers who do not have the advantage of a depth of experience with me. Yes, stunning writers capture you at "Hello," but writers such as I have to grow on you a bit. I get less Zen and more Zeitgeist if I try to be innovative in a technological way.
Years ago when I taught HTML to myself just to get through web development at my job, I was glad to be nearing retirement and more able to ignore each new version and change and added acronyms such as XML! I was the go-to person for many software projects, but it was all a false front because we were the blind leading the blind, and most of us had other things we wanted to accomplish with or without the ever changing technology.
So, is this death of Google Reader, which is something I do not really understand, some type of RSS feed that affects the setting on my Blogs I Follow feed that I set up under Google Blogger years ago? Is this why I can no longer get new blog post feeds from my blog pals and scroll and select as I did in the past sometimes and can get it other times?
Yes, I get post updates if I go to the Blogger dashboard behind my blog page and peruse the Reading list that falls below...but I am not sure this includes all the blogs I now follow. What about those under a different service?
I have a wedding to go to and do not have time for this falderal (not a code). It is like all of the blogs that I follow have fallen behind the iron curtain of coding. Is this what I deserve for getting this for free for so many years and for naively believing it would continue forever? I need to be archiving select posts!!
Friday, June 28, 2013
Compulsions
I think we all have them. Whether we are born with them or they come about because of our lives, we feel compelled to do something a certain way at a certain time. We react in a certain way to certain people. Some compulsions are stronger than others. Some people can control their compulsions...but if they are accepted by society, some of us find we must do them or explode.
My compulsion is cleaning and beautifying. I can live in a fairly messy, dusty house for months on end, but if company is coming I must get every dust bunny and streak and errant article of clothing out of sight. If company is coming to stay...and if company is family...then I cannot control my whirling dervish energy dust bunny. Yes, I can get a little testy during these times, but I think I try to realize that others are not as crazed with such goals as I, and I let them go cower somewhere until I am back to normal.
For instance, I took the leaf blower and blew our the garage yesterday. But that was not enough, because I then attached an ammonia cleanser to the hose and washed down the inside windows, the garage door, the garage floor and the steps to the house. I straightened all the garage shelves and garden shoe and boot piles and assorted odds and ends by the entry. Yes, I could have rearranged all the shelves in the garage and not just the most visible and really do it up proud, but I found my finished work acceptable.
As my 'fans' know (and the rest will have to catch up) I will be leaving for the wedding soon and bringing relatives back to the empty house after five days away. This presents a challenge regarding food. What can I prepare ahead of time and leave in freezer or fridge? Do I arrange the cut flowers for the bedrooms before I go, or will they all be wilted and petal-dropped when I return. Thus, do I make a quick cutting trip to the garden while guests unpack on the late afternoon of our return? Perhaps, since I am an early riser, I can cut and arrange small bouquets the next morning before breakfast? I have checked the soaps and shampoos and conditioners.
I will have laundered every single floor rug that can be washed. The rest are vacuumed to within an inch of their nap. Yesterday I hose washed the outside of all the windows and showered away the webs in corners.
Today I will select the CDs that are most appropriate for dining and pleasant conversation and have them ready in the player for our return. I have purchased a case of red and a case of white wine, a little more expensive than the wine I buy for myself. I need to buy beer, but am at a loss, as I don't drink it.
Now I am wondering if I should go through my shoes and straighten those...just kidding.
Some of us have compulsions of a more personal nature...like watching that television series at a certain time, arranging the remote and coffee cup just so each morning, combing their little boys hair in a certain way before he races outdoors, feeding the cat the exact homemade food formula, or insisting on sorting and reading the mail/newspaper first in the household. Think about it a minute. What are your compulsions?
Tuesday, June 25, 2013
The Devil is Always in the Details
Regarding my prior post, please note that I am old enough to know that drawing battle lines over this wedding issue helps no one. Least of all me! My brother is the sweetest most hardworking and loving guy! He is a really good looking and tremendous man and his first marriage was a disaster with a woman who cheated on him!. Seriously, I had better never meet that witch face to face in the future or there will be blood...hers!
Therefore, I am frustrated that this second marriage is far less than he deserves. But I will not point this out to him...or anyone else. I just had to point it out to you-all. His wife is not a bad person. Who knows what her childhood was like with divorced parents?
Anyway, got my wedding haircut today and it is a little shorter than I hoped, but she spent 45 minutes and really layered it and it is probably the best haircut I have had in years. Cost $50...which is more than the $12 I usually pay at the walk-in, but worth it. Maybe I will post a photo of me at the wedding, if I can get someone else behind the camera lens. I probably cannot post wedding photos as those are copyrighted.
We are driving my son up after work next week three days before the wedding as his car cannot make the trip. (There is another story in that!) Since it is a 6 hour drive, we will not be getting in until midnight.
My son has said absolutely nothing about the mother/son dance which concerns me a little. I guess we are going to wing it. Pray that we look divine as I can dance well only with a strong lead!
I have finalized the rehearsal dinner number at 80...but since most guests are coming from out of town, that is not unusually large. It is a BBQ on a beach catered by a BBQ place selected by my future DIL since this is in a town where her parents live. When I had first called them months ago, they thought I had said the 3rd of July...not the 4th. When I called again last week, they said they were closed on the 4th! Yes, I had a mini-heart attack...but they said they could do it if I was willing to pay holiday overtime. I threw caution to the wind and said I was...thinking this might add hundreds to the bill. She said overtime would cost $50. Don't you just love doing things outside the big city?
I do think Son has picked a '+10' when it comes to his bride-to-be. We really lucked out on that and I could not be happier for him! I will next look forward to my grand-children's weddings...and yes, I do expect to be here for that!
Therefore, I am frustrated that this second marriage is far less than he deserves. But I will not point this out to him...or anyone else. I just had to point it out to you-all. His wife is not a bad person. Who knows what her childhood was like with divorced parents?
Anyway, got my wedding haircut today and it is a little shorter than I hoped, but she spent 45 minutes and really layered it and it is probably the best haircut I have had in years. Cost $50...which is more than the $12 I usually pay at the walk-in, but worth it. Maybe I will post a photo of me at the wedding, if I can get someone else behind the camera lens. I probably cannot post wedding photos as those are copyrighted.
We are driving my son up after work next week three days before the wedding as his car cannot make the trip. (There is another story in that!) Since it is a 6 hour drive, we will not be getting in until midnight.
My son has said absolutely nothing about the mother/son dance which concerns me a little. I guess we are going to wing it. Pray that we look divine as I can dance well only with a strong lead!
I have finalized the rehearsal dinner number at 80...but since most guests are coming from out of town, that is not unusually large. It is a BBQ on a beach catered by a BBQ place selected by my future DIL since this is in a town where her parents live. When I had first called them months ago, they thought I had said the 3rd of July...not the 4th. When I called again last week, they said they were closed on the 4th! Yes, I had a mini-heart attack...but they said they could do it if I was willing to pay holiday overtime. I threw caution to the wind and said I was...thinking this might add hundreds to the bill. She said overtime would cost $50. Don't you just love doing things outside the big city?
I do think Son has picked a '+10' when it comes to his bride-to-be. We really lucked out on that and I could not be happier for him! I will next look forward to my grand-children's weddings...and yes, I do expect to be here for that!
Sunday, June 23, 2013
Family!
Family! I think that the best of us, and the worst of us is brought forward at weddings and funerals. I love each of my brothers (2) and my sister (1) and my dearly departed sister (1) tremendously. I like my brother-in-law; I like my sister-in-law; and I tolerate with patience my other sister-in law. None of us are perfect and we all come from various backgrounds and relationships, and if you love someone you tolerate those they love. I am lucky in that I do not live too close, and therefore, find it easy to keep my opinions to myself.
When I used to fly out to visit them, I would have to stop by my "baby" brother's house, because he could never get away to see me the entire week I was there at my parents farm only 8 miles away. He would fix me and my husband a lovely dinner and we would visit and enjoy each others' company. His wife would never be there, though. She was always off visiting friends or doing something vague which never was clear in my mind. Years later I learned that her first child had arrived her Senior years in high school and resulted in a quick wedding that did not last. She never went to college but I really think she never wanted to. One marriage and two more children later, she married my brother. That was when I believed her insecurity at being with us college educated types without such divorce histories was her reason for avoiding us. I went out of my way to make her feel I was not judgmental in any way and made sure that she understood I thought her three children from two prior marriages were shining examples of good people...which they really are! Yes the first two have illegitimate children and have never married, but they are basically good solid folk. The last (under my brother's stronger influence) did make it through college without getting pregnant and seems to have a solid relationship with someone and without children at this time.
Anyway, the stimulus for this diatribe post is my brother's public comment on FB (not the private messaging venue) that he did not have a suit for my son's upcoming wedding. I thought he was joking and we commented back and forth over a few days until I finally explained that a shirt and tie would make him more comfortable than those in suits sitting in the late afternoon summer sun...the wedding is outside and a suit was not compulsory.
Now this week, just 12 days before the wedding he PUBLICLY comments on FB that there is a 'snag' in their plans to fly out for the wedding and the later drive to my house. The dog sitter they had arranged for could not come and they hope to find one that "they approve of" before they have to leave! He has never come out to see me in all the years I have lived on the East Coast except for my daughter's wedding ten years ago. Although I have been to visit him at least three times since then. I do love him, but think this is all someone else's insecurities coming forward. I think someone does not want to spend time with all the in-laws and is hoping she will not have to. Unfortunately, even her first born son had said to me years ago that she is a very selfish and self-centered person.
Do I sound just a little annoyed? Well, I am. This is not a big deal to anyone, but me, of course. OK, got it off my chest, now I can enjoy this wedding.
When I used to fly out to visit them, I would have to stop by my "baby" brother's house, because he could never get away to see me the entire week I was there at my parents farm only 8 miles away. He would fix me and my husband a lovely dinner and we would visit and enjoy each others' company. His wife would never be there, though. She was always off visiting friends or doing something vague which never was clear in my mind. Years later I learned that her first child had arrived her Senior years in high school and resulted in a quick wedding that did not last. She never went to college but I really think she never wanted to. One marriage and two more children later, she married my brother. That was when I believed her insecurity at being with us college educated types without such divorce histories was her reason for avoiding us. I went out of my way to make her feel I was not judgmental in any way and made sure that she understood I thought her three children from two prior marriages were shining examples of good people...which they really are! Yes the first two have illegitimate children and have never married, but they are basically good solid folk. The last (under my brother's stronger influence) did make it through college without getting pregnant and seems to have a solid relationship with someone and without children at this time.
Anyway, the stimulus for this diatribe post is my brother's public comment on FB (not the private messaging venue) that he did not have a suit for my son's upcoming wedding. I thought he was joking and we commented back and forth over a few days until I finally explained that a shirt and tie would make him more comfortable than those in suits sitting in the late afternoon summer sun...the wedding is outside and a suit was not compulsory.
Now this week, just 12 days before the wedding he PUBLICLY comments on FB that there is a 'snag' in their plans to fly out for the wedding and the later drive to my house. The dog sitter they had arranged for could not come and they hope to find one that "they approve of" before they have to leave! He has never come out to see me in all the years I have lived on the East Coast except for my daughter's wedding ten years ago. Although I have been to visit him at least three times since then. I do love him, but think this is all someone else's insecurities coming forward. I think someone does not want to spend time with all the in-laws and is hoping she will not have to. Unfortunately, even her first born son had said to me years ago that she is a very selfish and self-centered person.
Do I sound just a little annoyed? Well, I am. This is not a big deal to anyone, but me, of course. OK, got it off my chest, now I can enjoy this wedding.
Tuesday, June 18, 2013
Taking It One Step Further
A few days ago Grannie Annie had posted a question on her blog asking her readers to name the historic figure they would most like to meet if they had such powers or opportunity. It could be a celebrity or a dead historic person...whatever. I said that I wanted to meet my great grandchildren and my great, great grandchildren in the future and not go to the past. Why? Because I have an ego that would like to know if any of my loves, beliefs, etc. filtered through the generations. Did I have the right perspective? I would also be curious as to where they were in the grand scheme of things. How they made a living, what they loved, what they fought for and how the world was treating their generation. Did they still have the freedoms we fight for today? Were they able to live their lives as they wished? Did I recognize anything in their personalities that touched a chord?
One of Grannie Annie's readers/responders (who is in the music industry) posted that they had met celebrities and found that they were just regular people. I think that is true with most of the famous folks. They are not super smart, super strong, super beautiful...they were just in the right place at the right time and made the right decision or history rewrote their story and it seems to us that they made the right decisions. Or they were given a great talent and they were smart enough to nurture it. (Then, of course, I would pay money NOT to have to meet some of these celebrity idiots today...like that woman who just had a baby and is married to a controversial rock star and whose accomplishments consist of pouting and sticking out her (plastic?) chest.)
About 20 years ago I was watching a street festival in the Bahamas as part of a happy crowd. I glanced up at the over 6 foot thin black man standing next to me. I recognized him but could not for the life of me place him. After a time, I realized it was the man my children had watched on the TV show, The Electric Company. It was Morgan Freeman, whose fame is far greater than that educational program...although he still works on education with a TV space science program today. He even attended an international conference of physicists recently as a guest. I was both too intimidated and too polite at that time to interrupt his Caribbean vacation and act like a fan, and therefore, I let him be. I glanced at him now and again, and could have touched him we were so close, but we both had our privacy because it was dark at night. I do sort of regret that, but I am sure he does not!
We have all had these mental exercises of whose brain we would like to pick. One fun exercise I read (or heard about) a few years ago was a dinner party guest list. If you could invite 5 interesting people to eat dinner with you...who would you invite? I would most certainly include Morgan Freeman because he is such an eclectic and good person. Also at that time I read about this exercise I was younger and enjoying and thinking of inviting the humor columnist, Erma Bombeck,...an early woman's liberationist's advocate who used a laugh instead of a bat to make her point. She could keep us laughing right into dessert. Two down and three to go...whom would you invite? And perhaps a neat additional question...what on earth would you serve?
One of Grannie Annie's readers/responders (who is in the music industry) posted that they had met celebrities and found that they were just regular people. I think that is true with most of the famous folks. They are not super smart, super strong, super beautiful...they were just in the right place at the right time and made the right decision or history rewrote their story and it seems to us that they made the right decisions. Or they were given a great talent and they were smart enough to nurture it. (Then, of course, I would pay money NOT to have to meet some of these celebrity idiots today...like that woman who just had a baby and is married to a controversial rock star and whose accomplishments consist of pouting and sticking out her (plastic?) chest.)
About 20 years ago I was watching a street festival in the Bahamas as part of a happy crowd. I glanced up at the over 6 foot thin black man standing next to me. I recognized him but could not for the life of me place him. After a time, I realized it was the man my children had watched on the TV show, The Electric Company. It was Morgan Freeman, whose fame is far greater than that educational program...although he still works on education with a TV space science program today. He even attended an international conference of physicists recently as a guest. I was both too intimidated and too polite at that time to interrupt his Caribbean vacation and act like a fan, and therefore, I let him be. I glanced at him now and again, and could have touched him we were so close, but we both had our privacy because it was dark at night. I do sort of regret that, but I am sure he does not!
We have all had these mental exercises of whose brain we would like to pick. One fun exercise I read (or heard about) a few years ago was a dinner party guest list. If you could invite 5 interesting people to eat dinner with you...who would you invite? I would most certainly include Morgan Freeman because he is such an eclectic and good person. Also at that time I read about this exercise I was younger and enjoying and thinking of inviting the humor columnist, Erma Bombeck,...an early woman's liberationist's advocate who used a laugh instead of a bat to make her point. She could keep us laughing right into dessert. Two down and three to go...whom would you invite? And perhaps a neat additional question...what on earth would you serve?
Sunday, June 16, 2013
Gives Me Pause
Today is Father's Day and with the monumental job of being responsible for the successful journey of a child from infancy to adulthood no father can take total blame if things go astray. Fathers can only be thankful for what went right and accept the lessons learned and then start over.
In my role as a mother, I remember that my son and I had a somewhat rough time together when he reached his teen years. He is blunt, like me. He has a strong creative muse that does not let him rest and comes before others, like me. He is stubborn in his ideas, like me. He had periods of depression, unlike me. We grew apart for a while with a mutual peaceful understanding after some heavy discussions as he entered adulthood. Then in his late 20's he returned to the fold and we fell in love with each other once again and became good friends and best supports for each other. We still are finding our way on this winding journey.
My, now 30-something, son said to me the other day...not his exact words but the gist of it..."All of my friends like you guys. I told them you are a little crazy, but they like you anyway." Is this a left-handed complement or what? Should I avoid analyzing it? Should it be taken seriously? Have you received any strange complements from your adult children that give you pause although they make you smile?
In my role as a mother, I remember that my son and I had a somewhat rough time together when he reached his teen years. He is blunt, like me. He has a strong creative muse that does not let him rest and comes before others, like me. He is stubborn in his ideas, like me. He had periods of depression, unlike me. We grew apart for a while with a mutual peaceful understanding after some heavy discussions as he entered adulthood. Then in his late 20's he returned to the fold and we fell in love with each other once again and became good friends and best supports for each other. We still are finding our way on this winding journey.
My, now 30-something, son said to me the other day...not his exact words but the gist of it..."All of my friends like you guys. I told them you are a little crazy, but they like you anyway." Is this a left-handed complement or what? Should I avoid analyzing it? Should it be taken seriously? Have you received any strange complements from your adult children that give you pause although they make you smile?
Friday, June 14, 2013
Planned or Unplanned Obsolescence
Things your great great grandchildren may ask about:
What were postage stamps and why did people collect them?
What was a telephone?
What was a wall clock?
What was a radio?
What does the word 'cash' mean?
What was a hard drive?
What was cork and why was it used?
What was a book?
What was paper? And what was a newspaper?
What was a love letter?
What was an address book?
What was a photo album?
What is a FAX machine and why does it have that odd name?
What was ironing?
What was a power line?
Here are things I hope they do not ask!
What was spaghetti?
What was privacy?
What was a swing?
What was a nursery rhyme?
What was a butterfly?
What was a bumblebee?
What was a board game?
What was a sing-along? (NOT Karaoke)
What was retirement?
What is a misspelled word?
What were postage stamps and why did people collect them?
What was a telephone?
What was a wall clock?
What was a radio?
What does the word 'cash' mean?
What was a hard drive?
What was cork and why was it used?
What was a book?
What was paper? And what was a newspaper?
What was a love letter?
What was an address book?
What was a photo album?
What is a FAX machine and why does it have that odd name?
What was ironing?
What was a power line?
Here are things I hope they do not ask!
What was spaghetti?
What was privacy?
What was a swing?
What was a nursery rhyme?
What was a butterfly?
What was a bumblebee?
What was a board game?
What was a sing-along? (NOT Karaoke)
What was retirement?
What is a misspelled word?
Monday, June 10, 2013
Asian Woods
Many of my readers were more impressed with my rattan furniture than any of the hours and hours (and hours) of work I completed. I guess some were speechless, others felt guilty, and the rest of you just ignore a braggart.
Therefore, I thought I would discuss my rattan. First, rattan is a type of solid vine and wicker is type of weave that can use any number of materials such as rattan, bamboo, willow, rush, etc. Rattan is the most sturdy as it is solid core and related to the palm tree. It grows straight up and then winds down and around for a loooong way. My furniture came from the time I lived in Indonesia. I cannot remember how much it cost, but I know it would cost a lot more to purchase it in this country today. Hubby's employer at the time, the State Department, shipped it back for free as part of our household goods.
It is best used indoors, and for a number of years I had a sunroom, where it was used. For the last five years it has been under this deck of my new house. The deck leaks to this patio below in spite of the protection. Therefore, I try to keep the rattan sheltered in the winter with a plastic cover and make sure I paint it every few years. It is still in pretty good shape with only a few places where the rattan has started to crack although I have owned and used it for over 20 years.
Yes, I used a spray can to paint it as Peruby suggested. It took 7 or 8 cans and I had to spray two coats as well as a touch up after turning the furniture upside down and seeing places that I missed. My fingers were stiff!!
I bought two cheap (very cheap) plastic chairs at the hardware store that sort of compliment the color and help add more seating. I say they are cheap both in structure and price, because they are not all that solid when you sit on them in spite of their appearance and I will have to lock them down if a hurricane comes this way. Behind is an Asian-look water fountain and on the other side of the steps toward the far back is my black bamboo that I planted years ago and must keep in place each year. It does not spread like crazy as real bamboo does, so just a spring cut back seems to work although the early spring growth can dust your face with rain dew when you descend the stairs. I can cut away some of the inner bamboo once it turns black and it makes an attractive support structure for plants.
Yes I changed the color of the outdoor rug because that red rug was falling apart...and I have company coming after all. The contrast color is red, because my window trim is deep red all around the house and when the furniture was white, that was cool. We will see how long I like this spring Christmas theme.
Therefore, I thought I would discuss my rattan. First, rattan is a type of solid vine and wicker is type of weave that can use any number of materials such as rattan, bamboo, willow, rush, etc. Rattan is the most sturdy as it is solid core and related to the palm tree. It grows straight up and then winds down and around for a loooong way. My furniture came from the time I lived in Indonesia. I cannot remember how much it cost, but I know it would cost a lot more to purchase it in this country today. Hubby's employer at the time, the State Department, shipped it back for free as part of our household goods.
It is best used indoors, and for a number of years I had a sunroom, where it was used. For the last five years it has been under this deck of my new house. The deck leaks to this patio below in spite of the protection. Therefore, I try to keep the rattan sheltered in the winter with a plastic cover and make sure I paint it every few years. It is still in pretty good shape with only a few places where the rattan has started to crack although I have owned and used it for over 20 years.
Yes, I used a spray can to paint it as Peruby suggested. It took 7 or 8 cans and I had to spray two coats as well as a touch up after turning the furniture upside down and seeing places that I missed. My fingers were stiff!!
I bought two cheap (very cheap) plastic chairs at the hardware store that sort of compliment the color and help add more seating. I say they are cheap both in structure and price, because they are not all that solid when you sit on them in spite of their appearance and I will have to lock them down if a hurricane comes this way. Behind is an Asian-look water fountain and on the other side of the steps toward the far back is my black bamboo that I planted years ago and must keep in place each year. It does not spread like crazy as real bamboo does, so just a spring cut back seems to work although the early spring growth can dust your face with rain dew when you descend the stairs. I can cut away some of the inner bamboo once it turns black and it makes an attractive support structure for plants.
Yes I changed the color of the outdoor rug because that red rug was falling apart...and I have company coming after all. The contrast color is red, because my window trim is deep red all around the house and when the furniture was white, that was cool. We will see how long I like this spring Christmas theme.
Saturday, June 08, 2013
The Pace of Retirement - Part of Just One Week- Who Knew?
So, after my last post one might envision me sitting on my deck with a camera and a book and contemplating the summer dancing shadows for several afternoons while sipping a favorite wine. Fat chance! I have decided I am my own worst enemy. With company (6 adults for 3 days) coming immediately after my return from a distant wedding the first week in July, I am determined to have a spotless house and yard it seems and I made this list to see what I could accomplish and actually surprised myself! I am bats++t crazy...just a little.
Tuesday: 2 hours working with my volunteer gardeners at the museum, three loads of laundry done, transplanting plants into pots at home, cooking dinner.
Wednesday: 1.25 hours running, lifting weights and stretching, cleaning the big closet, dusting upstairs bedrooms in the corners and cornices and under furniture, weeding flower beds, washing off deck, watering plants on deck, cooking dinner.
Thursday: Meeting on the children's garden at the art museum, grocery shopping, cleaned carpets in basement, cleaned sectional sofa and the loveseat and one rug on main floor (with hubby's help), returned carpet machine and did a little shopping at the small mall and ate out at the Thai restaurant. Insomnia woke me at 2:00 P.M. so finished reading "Me Again"on my Kindle.
Friday: Put all furniture back in place on slightly damp carpet, washed down the elliptical and dusted other stuff, one hour heavy exercise, brief update on blogger, called Toyota dealer for appointment, sorted the dozens of magazines piled on and beneath the huge coffee table in the main room, cleaned out the laundry room cupboard under the sink and threw away a bunch of stuff, folded one load of laundry, checked off stuff on my list and added stuff to my list, took a nap, washed out and re-arranged the coffee cupboard in the kitchen, and cooked dinner (popcorn). (It poured rain all day so this was easy!) Doesn't it all look so shiny clean down there?
Saturday: Washed upstairs bedroom windows (6) and screens and dusted the trim. Changed the sheets in one bedroom. Fixed (after 20 minutes of work) a stupid casement window that would not close--the left one in the photo below! That is the area where we keep the kids books and toys. (I hate Eagle windows.) Cleaned the upstairs bathroom and put out new shampoos and soaps. Selected two photographs and hung them in the upstairs guest bathroom (talk about tooting my own horn!) but they matched the orange accents in that room and believe it or not, I just eyeballed the placement. Vacuumed and mopped the tiled areas of the basement outside the carpet and rug areas (in photo above), mopped the landing and stairs, cleaned up hubby's grow light area, cleaned basement bathroom and shower (and discovered the shower sprays everywhere when you open the door to use it so got a quick shower!!).
Sunday: I will clean the guest bedroom downstairs, wash the two basement windows and the one set of french doors in the basement, dead-head roses and sundry other dead-heading after the two days of rain. There is one hour of regular exercise that I have promised myself to complete.
Last week I painted these...they used to be white! My goodness what a slump I will be in when I finish all on the list! I realize I have to quit beating myself up on not getting organized for this...cause I guess I am moving it forward regardless once I started listing all that I do get done.
Tuesday: 2 hours working with my volunteer gardeners at the museum, three loads of laundry done, transplanting plants into pots at home, cooking dinner.
Wednesday: 1.25 hours running, lifting weights and stretching, cleaning the big closet, dusting upstairs bedrooms in the corners and cornices and under furniture, weeding flower beds, washing off deck, watering plants on deck, cooking dinner.
Thursday: Meeting on the children's garden at the art museum, grocery shopping, cleaned carpets in basement, cleaned sectional sofa and the loveseat and one rug on main floor (with hubby's help), returned carpet machine and did a little shopping at the small mall and ate out at the Thai restaurant. Insomnia woke me at 2:00 P.M. so finished reading "Me Again"on my Kindle.
Friday: Put all furniture back in place on slightly damp carpet, washed down the elliptical and dusted other stuff, one hour heavy exercise, brief update on blogger, called Toyota dealer for appointment, sorted the dozens of magazines piled on and beneath the huge coffee table in the main room, cleaned out the laundry room cupboard under the sink and threw away a bunch of stuff, folded one load of laundry, checked off stuff on my list and added stuff to my list, took a nap, washed out and re-arranged the coffee cupboard in the kitchen, and cooked dinner (popcorn). (It poured rain all day so this was easy!) Doesn't it all look so shiny clean down there?
Saturday: Washed upstairs bedroom windows (6) and screens and dusted the trim. Changed the sheets in one bedroom. Fixed (after 20 minutes of work) a stupid casement window that would not close--the left one in the photo below! That is the area where we keep the kids books and toys. (I hate Eagle windows.) Cleaned the upstairs bathroom and put out new shampoos and soaps. Selected two photographs and hung them in the upstairs guest bathroom (talk about tooting my own horn!) but they matched the orange accents in that room and believe it or not, I just eyeballed the placement. Vacuumed and mopped the tiled areas of the basement outside the carpet and rug areas (in photo above), mopped the landing and stairs, cleaned up hubby's grow light area, cleaned basement bathroom and shower (and discovered the shower sprays everywhere when you open the door to use it so got a quick shower!!).
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| Grow light unit. |
Sunday: I will clean the guest bedroom downstairs, wash the two basement windows and the one set of french doors in the basement, dead-head roses and sundry other dead-heading after the two days of rain. There is one hour of regular exercise that I have promised myself to complete.
Last week I painted these...they used to be white! My goodness what a slump I will be in when I finish all on the list! I realize I have to quit beating myself up on not getting organized for this...cause I guess I am moving it forward regardless once I started listing all that I do get done.
Wednesday, June 05, 2013
Charging Around or Re-Charging
My daughter has invited me to a belated sharing to celebrate Mother's Day now past. I have told her time and again, I just want time...perhaps a lunch at a cafe and a movie matinee. But, she is bringing along my 5-year-old granddaughter who sometimes seems more like 6. It will be a girls day and I am not sure what it will be. At first I thought it was the rose show in her area, but she said we would be spending the time in-doors and not walking much and I am sure my granddaughter is not (yet) into roses. All will be revealed later and it will be fun.
BUT this post is not about that. It is about how busy my life seems these days. With a wedding, various holidays, a field trip I am planning for my volunteer group, my volunteer work, my own gardening, relatives coming back from the wedding to my house for several days, babysitting the grandchildren for three days twice this summer, and a schedule next week for an oven repair, I am beginning to feel like life is too busy for me. Many of these are necessary time sumps and others are things of joy that I love. But as a creative soul, I find they take away from my reading, my photography, and my writing and my re-charging. With age I am finding that quiet time is so essential to my soul. I need it like most people need water, and now that I am retired, I really want to cram as much quiet time as possible into my days...those few thousand days that us old folks treasure.
Those of you who are young wonder why two or three days full in an otherwise empty week can be so draining, but someday, if you are lucky to live a long life, you will find that bouncing back is just a little harder and greed for this me-time is just a little stronger. Perhaps it is a rebound from all the hours, days and weeks we sacrificed for our family and job when we were younger. OR you may be like my husband and have a passion for filling every single hour of every single day with some project or activity and totally forgetting many of these things when they collide on a calendar!
Yes, I can still juggle three grandchildren, their meals and fun times, and my email and bills and housecleaning and travel and exercise and hobbies. But once I get a day of unscheduled breathing room, I tend to stare into space and breathe slowly for hours or read poetry or watch a good British mystery on TV while I slowly fold clothes. I am like a cell phone that needs to be plugged into the wall and not used for hours. I can't even carry on a conversation as that is too draining!
So if there are greater gaps in my blogging you will know that I am downloading some energy somewhere.
BUT this post is not about that. It is about how busy my life seems these days. With a wedding, various holidays, a field trip I am planning for my volunteer group, my volunteer work, my own gardening, relatives coming back from the wedding to my house for several days, babysitting the grandchildren for three days twice this summer, and a schedule next week for an oven repair, I am beginning to feel like life is too busy for me. Many of these are necessary time sumps and others are things of joy that I love. But as a creative soul, I find they take away from my reading, my photography, and my writing and my re-charging. With age I am finding that quiet time is so essential to my soul. I need it like most people need water, and now that I am retired, I really want to cram as much quiet time as possible into my days...those few thousand days that us old folks treasure.
Those of you who are young wonder why two or three days full in an otherwise empty week can be so draining, but someday, if you are lucky to live a long life, you will find that bouncing back is just a little harder and greed for this me-time is just a little stronger. Perhaps it is a rebound from all the hours, days and weeks we sacrificed for our family and job when we were younger. OR you may be like my husband and have a passion for filling every single hour of every single day with some project or activity and totally forgetting many of these things when they collide on a calendar!
Yes, I can still juggle three grandchildren, their meals and fun times, and my email and bills and housecleaning and travel and exercise and hobbies. But once I get a day of unscheduled breathing room, I tend to stare into space and breathe slowly for hours or read poetry or watch a good British mystery on TV while I slowly fold clothes. I am like a cell phone that needs to be plugged into the wall and not used for hours. I can't even carry on a conversation as that is too draining!
So if there are greater gaps in my blogging you will know that I am downloading some energy somewhere.
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