Yes, the retirement party was worthwhile. The person we were honoring is one of those gems in life that those working under her weep at her departure. She was nurturing, innovative and smart and a very close friend.
BUT I was also under social obligation to stop by my old department up several floors.
My final years I worked for the "guv'ment" in the Washington, D.C. area. It was a service oriented job rather than research, and I was in a group where I sort of remained on the outside. I had to bring in my own budget, and most of those I provided service to were not in the office, the building, or even the town. So I did not work closely with those colleagues in the offices around me. At times there was jealousy (surprise!) at my ability to have a little more independence with a budget.
But also, some days I really felt I was working in an asylum in my immediate department. There were a handful of colleagues that were hardworking, professional and with whom I had a very collegial relationship. Most of them moved on before me. There were others that had serious personal problems. #1 was emotionally unstable. Some days she was friendly and some days she would bite your head off for no particular reason. #2 was very competitive about her program and secretive. I did win her over toward the end and she and I worked on a project or two successfully. #3 (the retiring program supervisor) was good at the job and did hold the unit together, but when she got bored she liked to play mind games with her staff and watch the chaos. #5 (the new program supervisor) was treading water until his retirement and had no desire to manage anyone when he came on board and he hid in his office. #6 the office secretary was everybody's mother. She had a million of her own life problems (money, live-in lover, divorcing son, etc.) but she always wanted to solve everyone's calamities rather than do her job. She was out sick a LOT. #7 also had serious mental problems. She was cute and sweet, but behind the scenes she was frequently attaching herself to any new project and hung on for dear life trying to pretend she was making a contribution. Once a contractor got in a shouting match with her across from my cubicle because she kept messing with his project. She spent time telling tales on others and blowing things out of proportion. She had a panic attack in one meeting and created a rift between another person and I that was totally unexpected until I saw how she liked to drive wedges. She and another contractor had an ongoing feud which took up time in too many staff meetings. When a position opened up for a promotion for her where she had criticized every prior candidate, she backed down and didn't take it, to no one's surprise. For a full year I tried to develop a relationship with her and then just ignored her as best I could when I realized how dangerous she was. #8 was in the cubicle near mine and I had to get her permission to use any of our major equipment such as the giant laser printer. She was strict, demanded genuflecting, gave instructional lectures always and the only way I could get anything out of her was to praise the hell out of her....which I did. #9 was the cleaning girl who stole food from our lunches in the kitchen. Some days, you would be missing your lunch.
Everyone else was pretty normal and hardworking if a bit territorial which is not unusual in decades of tight government budgets. I have maintained a close relationship we a few of these folks and we have even spent days hiking and boating after my retirement. The night before this retirement celebration all the dysfunctional stuff I had had to deal with while trying to do my job came rushing back like a nightmare and that was the energy in the post below.
I regret that my final years were not spent in a place where people worked together with professional competitiveness but courtesy, where people had common goals, where there was some trust and sense of teamwork. But, alas, I earned my money the hard way.
Friday, January 11, 2013
Thursday, January 10, 2013
Friend's Retirement Parties
I embrace with no reservation
The peacefulness of solitude
and the songs of nature.
Yet for some too much of this
is a breathtaking loneliness
equal to waiting for death.
The mindless little chatter
of long ago acquantenances
fills me with emptyness.
Yet for some it is a
breath of oxygen
and injects lost energies.
The passing years
now clearly paint the obvious
shallowness, fear, and deception.
Yet for some it is
acceptance of imperfections
and silly weaknesses.
The hand extended still shows the scars where it was bitten,
Yet some wounds heal much better than others.
My memories are somewhat harsh
and heavy to recognize.
His memories are nostalgic
and bring surety, and perhaps,
assurance of goals met.
Are we of two imperfect worlds?
Are we of two weak minds?
We are of two imperfect worlds.
We are of two imperfect minds.
Wednesday, January 09, 2013
Honestly
Two updates to complicate the post below even more. I ate out at Olive Garden last night because I wanted to support their support of their employees...and not to put too fine a point on it, I just wanted to eat out after several weeks of cooking. Anyway, the waitress comes to our table and asks for our drink order after we get settled. She proceeds to sneeze into her elbow not once but twice before she can even speak. She has been out the two prior days due to illness.
Yes, this was extremely off-putting, and if I was more religious, I would say this was a message of some kind from God. Of course, I had to comment that I was pleased how the Darden franchise had decided to provide their employees with heath care instead of cutting hours.
She smiled ruefully and then said it was great if you could afford it. Yes, they provided every employee with the opportunity for health coverage, but it was expensive and the coverage was minimal. Then she said that if she didn't want it she still had to provide herself with health coverage from somewhere else by law.
I also want to add, after talking to my husband, that my health coverage, which is taken from my pension check prior to my getting it, is also more expensive then I remembered. My husband and I pay for single, not family, coverage as it saves us about $100 a year. We are both on Medicare by age, but also must purchase the supplemental for coverage of what Medicare does not pay which is a lot! We each pay $165.79 a month. Last year it was $132.21. This is almost a 25% increase in premium costs if my math is correct. I could blame this on the implementation of the Affordable Health Care Act, but I am a pragmatist and think it would have gone up anyway and I do not know for what reason. My co-pays creep up over the years as well. Still this insurance is far less than we would pay through Part A and Part B supplimental Medicare insurance to pay for the things that the medicare basic does not cover. It is similar to what Congress gets.
We also both carry long-term care insurance. We would get about 3 years coverage each in a nursing home if needed and this costs us about $300 a year each. We purchased these policies when we wer in our mid-fifties for greater savings These are somewhat of a gamble, because in decades ahead the insurance company has to be there to pay out if needed and we are gambling that one or both of us will need to spend time in a nursing home. Our company is large and bonded.
I took care of my mother in her last months in her own home and I took care of my Mother-in-Law in her last years in our home. But she did have to spend a few months in a nursing home before her death when she required full time nursing care. I just do not want my children to have to take us in if they cannot. My father was taken in by my brother for a year before his death. My Father-in Law spent about a year in a nursing home in Florida.
Yes, this was extremely off-putting, and if I was more religious, I would say this was a message of some kind from God. Of course, I had to comment that I was pleased how the Darden franchise had decided to provide their employees with heath care instead of cutting hours.
She smiled ruefully and then said it was great if you could afford it. Yes, they provided every employee with the opportunity for health coverage, but it was expensive and the coverage was minimal. Then she said that if she didn't want it she still had to provide herself with health coverage from somewhere else by law.
I also want to add, after talking to my husband, that my health coverage, which is taken from my pension check prior to my getting it, is also more expensive then I remembered. My husband and I pay for single, not family, coverage as it saves us about $100 a year. We are both on Medicare by age, but also must purchase the supplemental for coverage of what Medicare does not pay which is a lot! We each pay $165.79 a month. Last year it was $132.21. This is almost a 25% increase in premium costs if my math is correct. I could blame this on the implementation of the Affordable Health Care Act, but I am a pragmatist and think it would have gone up anyway and I do not know for what reason. My co-pays creep up over the years as well. Still this insurance is far less than we would pay through Part A and Part B supplimental Medicare insurance to pay for the things that the medicare basic does not cover. It is similar to what Congress gets.
We also both carry long-term care insurance. We would get about 3 years coverage each in a nursing home if needed and this costs us about $300 a year each. We purchased these policies when we wer in our mid-fifties for greater savings These are somewhat of a gamble, because in decades ahead the insurance company has to be there to pay out if needed and we are gambling that one or both of us will need to spend time in a nursing home. Our company is large and bonded.
I took care of my mother in her last months in her own home and I took care of my Mother-in-Law in her last years in our home. But she did have to spend a few months in a nursing home before her death when she required full time nursing care. I just do not want my children to have to take us in if they cannot. My father was taken in by my brother for a year before his death. My Father-in Law spent about a year in a nursing home in Florida.
Tuesday, January 08, 2013
Food, Glorious Food
Mr. John Schnatter, owner of one of the largest mansions I have ever seen built by an American pastime, made news when he claimed that raising the price of his pizza by pennies would be too great a change to provide those working for him with health care, something he would be required to do under the Affordable Health Care Act. Yes, folks this act is going to cost you more in pizza. But if you eat lots of pizza, your health care costs are going to go up anyway.
I am willing to pay more for all types of things so that my fellow citizens can have decent health care. It is the lower wage employees, many times the ones exposed to the worst working conditions and the most unpredictable employment stability, that are going to suffer by employers reducing their hours. I was trying to cheer up a cashier at BJ's when he pointed out it was not the long hours but the shorter hours he was suffering from. He was only allowed to work 24 hours a week. I thought it was an overtime issue, but he clarified that if he put in 30 hours they would have to provide him with healthcare support.
Denny's restaurants in Florida said they would raise their meals by 5%. Really! I am willing to pay that during the few times I eat at Denny's.
The Darden restaurants (Olive Garden, Red Lobster, etc.) also claimed this healthcare law was just too costly and too burdensome on their business...until they found within weeks a drop in business by about 37% when people found out and a drop in their standards of customer service when employees were spread out part-time.
Look, this national health care initiative is going to cost, but the cost will be spread out over us all and there are several provisions that tighten the waste and overspending done in hospitals and doctor's offices.
Just THINK for a minute. Do you really want to be eat food that has been cooked, handled and served by staff who avoid seeing a doctor until the very last minute because they have no health care? Let us be practical here and little more generous with our money.
I will watch the food industry and only eat in those places that care about the health of their employees. You can take your own chances as you wish.
I am willing to pay more for all types of things so that my fellow citizens can have decent health care. It is the lower wage employees, many times the ones exposed to the worst working conditions and the most unpredictable employment stability, that are going to suffer by employers reducing their hours. I was trying to cheer up a cashier at BJ's when he pointed out it was not the long hours but the shorter hours he was suffering from. He was only allowed to work 24 hours a week. I thought it was an overtime issue, but he clarified that if he put in 30 hours they would have to provide him with healthcare support.
Denny's restaurants in Florida said they would raise their meals by 5%. Really! I am willing to pay that during the few times I eat at Denny's.
The Darden restaurants (Olive Garden, Red Lobster, etc.) also claimed this healthcare law was just too costly and too burdensome on their business...until they found within weeks a drop in business by about 37% when people found out and a drop in their standards of customer service when employees were spread out part-time.
Look, this national health care initiative is going to cost, but the cost will be spread out over us all and there are several provisions that tighten the waste and overspending done in hospitals and doctor's offices.
Just THINK for a minute. Do you really want to be eat food that has been cooked, handled and served by staff who avoid seeing a doctor until the very last minute because they have no health care? Let us be practical here and little more generous with our money.
I will watch the food industry and only eat in those places that care about the health of their employees. You can take your own chances as you wish.
Sunday, January 06, 2013
Dumber than Smart
A few years ago when I bought my HP PC they included not a single manual but a 3-foot wide foldout with graphics on how to put it together. The limited written instructions were in a font size that could be read standing over the paper when laid out on the floor. They they sent me online to learn how to use the PC. That approach is most challenging if you are new to computers but it is efficient in the word arena if you need to know how to put it together.
With my Droid smartphone they gave me this many opportunities in the photo above to get it wrong and almost be reduced to tears on the day after Christmas. The font size was 8! How can an instrument that is primarily designed for communication get is so wrong? Clearly they never learned the best from Cicero "When you wish to instruct, be brief; that men's minds take in quickly what you say, learn its lesson, and retain it faithfully. Every word that is unnecessary only pours over the side of a brimming mind." Well, I have definitely brimmed here. There are videos online that you can watch in the tiny screen to learn more. They move very fast. You will have to watch them enough times to memorize them and then perhaps apply. (Anyone under 50 who is reading this, get over your miraculous selves because you WILL be here someday with some great new technology.)
I eventually went to the store where the phone was purchased and asked the 15-year-old working there if he could transfer my phone book from my old phone. He fiddled for a while and had the same success that I did. He took my phone to the computer and fiddled there and had more success. I forgot to ask him to transfer the dozen photos that I had on the little pink device, but they were not important. I purchased three screen protectors for the touch screen and a car charger and got out of there for about $40.00! That used to be the price of a monthly phone bill so long ago.
I have had this phone since December 25 and hubby set it up so that it was ready to run on that day. I have received exactly one call since then, and it was from my husband in a test call. I told my husband that I really did not want this phone, but he is stubborn and probably thought I was trying to save money. Well he was right about that as I am not sure how much more on a monthly basis this gadget will cost us. My most recent cellular bill was 60$ more than usual, and I hope that means it included the cost of this slick pink thing. As I said before it will be most easy to drop---compared to the files in the photo below.
I did figure out how to take a photo of someone and then add that as an icon to the favorites box for phone calls, something hubby did not know could be done. But he has probably 300 contacts on his phone!
Yes, I am trying to be grateful, but I would have been just as happy with a box of French chocolate truffles.
I have little use for the "APPs" except the GPS and mapping device which is like my Garmin GPS! So, now I have two ways to get lost and two computer voices to ask me to make a U-Turn at the next available opportunity. The game APPS are not free and who on earth can see stuff that small in order to play if you are waiting in a doctor's office? I no longer need to carry a pocket calculator...I guess that is one of the things that will be obsolete in the future. I do not know the difference between an APP and a WIDGET though.
Yes, I am trying to be grateful, but I would have been just as happy with a box (or a dozen boxes) of French chocolate truffles.
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Abundance
We are both tired of the abundance that surrounds us over the holidays.
Hubby is tired of the abundance of germs that were shared by the most beautiful grandchildren in the world. He has been coughing for days.
I am tired of the abundance of chores that must be done when one half of the partnership is down for the count.
I am tired of the abundance of calories that waited for me everywhere and I have started once again (after the second twisted ankle in late fall and the completion of the dose of weird medicine) to go forth on the elliptical. Thank goodness this is not a New Year's resolution.
I am tired of the abundance of specialty stores in American malls. We have not one but two 'eyebrow' stores in our city mall.
This list is just the self-indulgent list at the mall. It will come as no surprise to my readers that I have NEVER had my eyebrows done in my life time. At this time in my life they are thin and gray...so only hormone application would work and with my luck I would also get hair growing out of my nose and ears.
There was a store just selling olive oils and few specialty vinegars...talk about living in abundance in a world that has many going hungry each night. (That guilt did not stop me from buying several expensive oils!)
There was an abundance of gifts in my life this year...two big ones that hubby bought me and which I did not ask for and am not sure I want. One is a very fancy remote control movie camera (two actually) for watching animals, nannies, or neighbors when they do not know they are being photographed. (This should just open up the world for more blog posts and perhaps resulting lawsuits. Youtube here I come.)
The other was a smart phone. It is thin making it very droppable. It has a touch screen that zips and zaps and gets it right 50% of the time. There are features upon features ... 90% of which I will never use. After some effort I linked it to FaceBook and was a little frightened that it picked up a bunch of phone numbers from that link as well! I bet half these people do not know that I have their phone number! Please note that I get maybe three calls a month on my mobile phone...maybe. Usually these calls are hubby trying to figure out where I am in the mall so that we can meet up for lunch.
The one abundance that I am always amazed about is the love of all the love-able people in my life. I can never repay it, but that will be my New Year's resolution.
(One final abundance note is too many fruit flies...not from all the wine I have been drinking but all the fruit that went to ferment while we were gone. I actually have one floating in the dregs of my coffee cup this morning.)
Monday, December 31, 2012
2013 Is Not an Unlucky Number
Responses to past questions in no particular order from ya'll:
Never played Angry Birds, but I do know what it is. (I got a smart phone for Christmas, unasked for, and I am sure I will not play Angry Birds on it. I am hoping I can just figure out how to make calls!) The Angry Birds game in the post below was a lego-like game without the great Lego engineering behind it.
I do not know what Google Reader is and glad that I have 117 followers there--so should I shoot for 150 now? How can I not know about this stuff?
Regarding the malware issue, I deleted the html link from my side bar to another blogger and deleted the html link in my post to the same blogger and that got rid of my malware issue. I still cannot go there to read her posts and I love her blog very much, so this is very frustrating! I will try again soon.
I also cannot leave a comment on Murmurrs and I love her blog to death as well!! I log in as Google reader, I log in as anonymous, nothing works. I seem to have resolved The Chubby Chatterbox issue. WILL YOU ALL PLEASE JUST STAY PUT!
On the bright side, 2013 is going to be a great year for us all...I just KNOW THAT!
Never played Angry Birds, but I do know what it is. (I got a smart phone for Christmas, unasked for, and I am sure I will not play Angry Birds on it. I am hoping I can just figure out how to make calls!) The Angry Birds game in the post below was a lego-like game without the great Lego engineering behind it.
I do not know what Google Reader is and glad that I have 117 followers there--so should I shoot for 150 now? How can I not know about this stuff?
Regarding the malware issue, I deleted the html link from my side bar to another blogger and deleted the html link in my post to the same blogger and that got rid of my malware issue. I still cannot go there to read her posts and I love her blog very much, so this is very frustrating! I will try again soon.
I also cannot leave a comment on Murmurrs and I love her blog to death as well!! I log in as Google reader, I log in as anonymous, nothing works. I seem to have resolved The Chubby Chatterbox issue. WILL YOU ALL PLEASE JUST STAY PUT!
On the bright side, 2013 is going to be a great year for us all...I just KNOW THAT!
Sunday, December 30, 2012
Reviewing
The holiday was very nice this year. One of those perfect ones where no one is sick, no one is grumpy, and no one has an agenda. I will treasure it.
We got soft fuzzy things to hug, for me it was a bathrobe.
We got stuff to put on our head.
With or without tags, we really look cool.
Anyone for a game of Quidditch?
The adults got a little angry over assembly of Angry Birds.
Sometimes it was a little overwhelming.
Sometimes little animals friends went to hide under the furniture.
But it ended with the best double birthday party!
Monday, December 24, 2012
Sunday, December 23, 2012
Follow Me!
All I want for Christmas (among other things money cannot buy) is 100 followers. I am close!
I guess my blog is now safe from the malware notice that I got this morning??? I will let others know on the other blog if I get no problems later today.
I guess my blog is now safe from the malware notice that I got this morning??? I will let others know on the other blog if I get no problems later today.
Saturday, December 22, 2012
Posting...or Not
I have been having trouble posting comments on a few blogs. Murmurrs and Butler and Bagman to name two. This may have been going on for some time because I assumed my comments were going through and I did not go back to read what I had written. The other day I had wanted to add something and found that none of my posts were being accepted, at least to these two and maybe others. I know that coding is becoming more individualized by bloggers, but does anyone know about this bug, and if so, found a solution? (I tried IE and deleted all the cookies and that worked. Mozilla is still being temperamental. I am so depressed that all my wit and wisdom was for not lost in the Interknot!)
Now I find that Loose Leaf Notes is being blocked for Malware or something or other,no matter which broswer I use! Sorry Colleen but Google will not let me comment! Two bloggers forward and one backward. Maybe this is a Mayan thing after all?
Now I find that Loose Leaf Notes is being blocked for Malware or something or other,no matter which broswer I use! Sorry Colleen but Google will not let me comment! Two bloggers forward and one backward. Maybe this is a Mayan thing after all?
Friday, December 21, 2012
Godlessness Be Damned
As we get closer to a God-filled holiday, I am surprised, although I certainly should not be, at how many God-less situations are being pointed out to me by God-filled experts. The most recent being a justification for tragedies in schools and universities because they are God-less bastions of compromising lifestyles and philosophies, and the next at the funerals of some of the school victims where church-goers were protesting their Godlessness.
As my readers know I am not a religious person. I am not an agnostic or an atheist either. I am someone on a journey always looking for God-fullness and answers in religious and non-religious events alike. I do not see God in my likeness but as a magnificent power or energy inside all living things, yet I do not see myself as a pantheist. I would never have the hubris to point out places where God does not exist. But I am bold enough to say that I think God is goodness and God is everywhere. God is the quiet and tiny. God is sometimes the bold and loud. God is ALWAYS EVERYWHERE and we abandon God, God does not abandon us. I do not think God is an evangelist demanding loyalty and creating punishment for those who stray. We create our own punishment. God is the softest act you will ever know seducing you into loyalty. He is like the poet's (Autry) son who in his autistic struggle in this world caught not one but dozens of butterflies and hummingbirds in his child-hands in slow wonderment, named them and then set them free in love.
I see IT/God in the face of a child whose life was shortened by violence. I see IT in the eye of the whale. I see IT in the dance of youth at a party. I see IT in the hands of a nurse removing blood streaked gloves. I see IT in the bent and gnarled body of an old woman crossing the street. I see IT in all the music that man has created and invented. I see this power for goodness in the poetry I read. I see it in all the colored lights we string and all the candles we light when man celebrates any God-filled holiday anywhere in the world. For that brief moment we concentrate outside ourselves. I also see God in the anger and discouragement of mankind. IT is hidden inside behind the fire waiting to be seen.
I see IT when we sigh and forgive ourselves for our mistakes each year and promise ourselves a better year. There sits God deep inside our soul waiting for us to recognize IT and not give up hope.
As my readers know I am not a religious person. I am not an agnostic or an atheist either. I am someone on a journey always looking for God-fullness and answers in religious and non-religious events alike. I do not see God in my likeness but as a magnificent power or energy inside all living things, yet I do not see myself as a pantheist. I would never have the hubris to point out places where God does not exist. But I am bold enough to say that I think God is goodness and God is everywhere. God is the quiet and tiny. God is sometimes the bold and loud. God is ALWAYS EVERYWHERE and we abandon God, God does not abandon us. I do not think God is an evangelist demanding loyalty and creating punishment for those who stray. We create our own punishment. God is the softest act you will ever know seducing you into loyalty. He is like the poet's (Autry) son who in his autistic struggle in this world caught not one but dozens of butterflies and hummingbirds in his child-hands in slow wonderment, named them and then set them free in love.
I see IT/God in the face of a child whose life was shortened by violence. I see IT in the eye of the whale. I see IT in the dance of youth at a party. I see IT in the hands of a nurse removing blood streaked gloves. I see IT in the bent and gnarled body of an old woman crossing the street. I see IT in all the music that man has created and invented. I see this power for goodness in the poetry I read. I see it in all the colored lights we string and all the candles we light when man celebrates any God-filled holiday anywhere in the world. For that brief moment we concentrate outside ourselves. I also see God in the anger and discouragement of mankind. IT is hidden inside behind the fire waiting to be seen.
I see IT when we sigh and forgive ourselves for our mistakes each year and promise ourselves a better year. There sits God deep inside our soul waiting for us to recognize IT and not give up hope.
Wednesday, December 19, 2012
Got Your Attention, Didn't It?
I have had a mild infection that I have been unable to shake for weeks and I finally demanded help from a local Physicians Assistant since my doctor (well THAT is a whole other story) will be fired by me this month. I am now on a drug that has the following uses:
"is used to prevent anthrax (a serious infection that may be spread on purpose as part of a bioterror attack) and is also sometimes used to prevent or treat travelers' diarrhea and plague (a serious infection that may be spread on purpose as part of a bioterror attack)." Were these explanations on labels years ago? Do the U.S. embassies have this in their stock? It also has not one but two black box warnings from the FDA. Whatever THAT means. I kept thinking of black boxes in airplanes as I read this.
The tablets are accompanied by a rather dense brochure. This drug also has the following dangers: "sudden pain, snapping or popping sound, bruising, swelling, tenderness, stiffness, or loss of movement in any of your joints." It is that "snapping or popping sound" warning that makes me more than nervous in taking this. No popcorn or fires in the fireplace tonight.
The above is, of course, in addition to a whole slew of possible reactions you would never want to happen to your worst enemy ever.
There, now aren't you feeling much, much better about your current problems?
"is used to prevent anthrax (a serious infection that may be spread on purpose as part of a bioterror attack) and is also sometimes used to prevent or treat travelers' diarrhea and plague (a serious infection that may be spread on purpose as part of a bioterror attack)." Were these explanations on labels years ago? Do the U.S. embassies have this in their stock? It also has not one but two black box warnings from the FDA. Whatever THAT means. I kept thinking of black boxes in airplanes as I read this.
The tablets are accompanied by a rather dense brochure. This drug also has the following dangers: "sudden pain, snapping or popping sound, bruising, swelling, tenderness, stiffness, or loss of movement in any of your joints." It is that "snapping or popping sound" warning that makes me more than nervous in taking this. No popcorn or fires in the fireplace tonight.
The above is, of course, in addition to a whole slew of possible reactions you would never want to happen to your worst enemy ever.
There, now aren't you feeling much, much better about your current problems?
Monday, December 17, 2012
Waves on the Water
This is how one email begain when I opened my inbox today:
This was a hard day telling Michael about what happened before knowing names. He is handling it well by asking thoughtful questions and knows that there are kids in heaven with Orazio(grandfather), Ricardo (horse), Elmo (fish), and his hermit crab.
Michael is the grandson of a friend of mine who just earlier that week attended a birthday party of one of the children who was killed in the tragedy at the elementary school and who also attended CCD (Catholic school) classes at his church taught by the mother of the same child. The wife of my friend who sent this email, who is also a friend of ours, is a nurse and was at the hospital working with a father, a NICU Physicians Assistant who has save so many babies lives, when he learned that his daughter had been shot at the school. This is the little blonde girl whose face has appeared in so many news stories. These tragic waves keep on expanding.
This is such a tough holiday season for us all. I took an unplanned trip up to see my grandchildren on Sunday...just to hug them and see them.
This was a hard day telling Michael about what happened before knowing names. He is handling it well by asking thoughtful questions and knows that there are kids in heaven with Orazio(grandfather), Ricardo (horse), Elmo (fish), and his hermit crab.
Michael is the grandson of a friend of mine who just earlier that week attended a birthday party of one of the children who was killed in the tragedy at the elementary school and who also attended CCD (Catholic school) classes at his church taught by the mother of the same child. The wife of my friend who sent this email, who is also a friend of ours, is a nurse and was at the hospital working with a father, a NICU Physicians Assistant who has save so many babies lives, when he learned that his daughter had been shot at the school. This is the little blonde girl whose face has appeared in so many news stories. These tragic waves keep on expanding.
This is such a tough holiday season for us all. I took an unplanned trip up to see my grandchildren on Sunday...just to hug them and see them.
Early Warming?
It is totally amazing to me that I had roses to pick a few days ago to add to some Christmas decorations that are on my dining table. I also noticed this morning that some trees are beginning to have small buds swelling in anticipation. This is so frightening to me as I do think we must have some cold weather ahead. If we do not, how odd spring will seem in early March! Which plants will survive this change, which birds and insects will be caught off guard and flying around somewhere they should not be?
Friday, December 14, 2012
Words...just Words
You can ask why? No one will give you an answer that makes any sense.
You can ask how? No untangled web will lead to the path of what the pattern meant.
You can ask what next? Take one step and then breathe and then take the next step and then breathe.
The breathing hurts, I know. It is harsh and sharp.
The first step feels as if there is no ground beneath your foot.
You may fall, but pick yourself up.
Reach for that nearby hand, it is firm and warm.
Take the next step.
You are part of the tapestry of this life.
Your presence helps keep it all from unraveling.
You are important. Please stay strong.
To the Rest of the World...We Are Not as Crazy as We Seem...Maybe.
(Note: This event and the writing about it happened days before the Oregon tragedy.)
I had a list...somewhere...I thought...looking for that wrinkled yellow paper torn from my notepad and now lying hidden beneath a wallet, a small camera, hand lotion, a pocket calendar, and stale gum deep in the bottom of my purse. I must use the list or I will kick into that addictive mode where I keep buying gifts for loved ones as if that could make them love me more or longer. I MUST STICK TO THE LIST!
I look around the mall filled with dazed shoppers and resigned children carrying bags of all shapes and sizes. Down the center of the mall are young minimum wage employees standing expectantly outside their kiosks wishing to dab something on my hand or allow me to play with some automated toy. They stand intensely watching for potential customers or absently texting wishing they were anywhere but here before displays of woven scarves or silver jewelry or brightly colored cell-phone cases. I silently say a prayer (to whomever) that they make it through the season with a little more money than they had hoped for. They deserve some reward after spending days rubbing lotion on old ladies hands.
Sighing to myself, I have given up on the list. I do remember my son asking for shirts and sweaters in medium and I turn to hubby and direct him away from watching some flying toy toward the large department store at the very end of the mall. It will be a trek and an obstacle course, but we will get there.
Surprisingly, the men's clothing section in the back of the store is not in total disarray. Shelves are neat and reasonably full of stock. Some of the sale prices are very good. I peruse tables avoiding the cream cheese golf look and the expensive European brands and turn toward the edgier clothing to match my son's 'rock star' personality. After all, he texted yesterday that he will be opening for Sublime with Rome...whoever in the hell they are! Striped shirts with thin bright bands or shiny black buttons which I match to a more subdued but very soft pullover sweater are my selections.
As I turn toward the checkout a tall woman about my age is standing just to my left. She turns to the (Indian/Pakistani?) girl behind the counter and asks if the shirt she is holding out is more blue or more purple. The girl hesitates and then answers "Purple" with a distinct un-American accent. Then the woman pulls up a bright lime green shirt, and looking at both the girl and I, asks if we think it is too bright. The girl demures clearly not sure what answer her customer is looking for.
I think her question is naive, but I tactlessly respond. "Depends on the personality of the man you are giving it to. Is he bold with personality or more conservative?" She doesn't answer but tucks the shirt under her arm and then turns to me again with the blue/purple shirt and asks if I think it is blue or periwinkle. I want to explain that looking at colors under store lighting is very deceptive, but being the photographer that I like to think I am, I boldly state that it has a little more purple in it and is probably closer to periwinkle.
I place my selections on the counter and hand the girl my credit card.
"I do not know what color is periwinkle," she smiles as she begins to scan the bar codes of my selections.
The tall, solidly built woman approaches the counter behind my husband and I, and looks around the store commenting that there is a lot of stock that still has to be moved by the holidays. I respond that I have seen some stores that do not seem to have so much inventory and appear to be playing it more carefully.
Hubby says something about the recession and something else that I do not hear about the economy as I finish my check-out. The woman responds to him with some comment I miss and he looks at a loss for words. I grab my bags of clothes and turn to leave as the woman leans in close to hubby's ear and says something to him in a low voice.
As we are leaving the store and out of her hearing, I ask him what she said.
He takes a deep breath, "When all the goodies are gone, just make sure you have your gun loaded and ready."
And yet, she had looked so absolutely normal.
I had a list...somewhere...I thought...looking for that wrinkled yellow paper torn from my notepad and now lying hidden beneath a wallet, a small camera, hand lotion, a pocket calendar, and stale gum deep in the bottom of my purse. I must use the list or I will kick into that addictive mode where I keep buying gifts for loved ones as if that could make them love me more or longer. I MUST STICK TO THE LIST!
I look around the mall filled with dazed shoppers and resigned children carrying bags of all shapes and sizes. Down the center of the mall are young minimum wage employees standing expectantly outside their kiosks wishing to dab something on my hand or allow me to play with some automated toy. They stand intensely watching for potential customers or absently texting wishing they were anywhere but here before displays of woven scarves or silver jewelry or brightly colored cell-phone cases. I silently say a prayer (to whomever) that they make it through the season with a little more money than they had hoped for. They deserve some reward after spending days rubbing lotion on old ladies hands.
Sighing to myself, I have given up on the list. I do remember my son asking for shirts and sweaters in medium and I turn to hubby and direct him away from watching some flying toy toward the large department store at the very end of the mall. It will be a trek and an obstacle course, but we will get there.
Surprisingly, the men's clothing section in the back of the store is not in total disarray. Shelves are neat and reasonably full of stock. Some of the sale prices are very good. I peruse tables avoiding the cream cheese golf look and the expensive European brands and turn toward the edgier clothing to match my son's 'rock star' personality. After all, he texted yesterday that he will be opening for Sublime with Rome...whoever in the hell they are! Striped shirts with thin bright bands or shiny black buttons which I match to a more subdued but very soft pullover sweater are my selections.
As I turn toward the checkout a tall woman about my age is standing just to my left. She turns to the (Indian/Pakistani?) girl behind the counter and asks if the shirt she is holding out is more blue or more purple. The girl hesitates and then answers "Purple" with a distinct un-American accent. Then the woman pulls up a bright lime green shirt, and looking at both the girl and I, asks if we think it is too bright. The girl demures clearly not sure what answer her customer is looking for.
I think her question is naive, but I tactlessly respond. "Depends on the personality of the man you are giving it to. Is he bold with personality or more conservative?" She doesn't answer but tucks the shirt under her arm and then turns to me again with the blue/purple shirt and asks if I think it is blue or periwinkle. I want to explain that looking at colors under store lighting is very deceptive, but being the photographer that I like to think I am, I boldly state that it has a little more purple in it and is probably closer to periwinkle.
I place my selections on the counter and hand the girl my credit card.
"I do not know what color is periwinkle," she smiles as she begins to scan the bar codes of my selections.
The tall, solidly built woman approaches the counter behind my husband and I, and looks around the store commenting that there is a lot of stock that still has to be moved by the holidays. I respond that I have seen some stores that do not seem to have so much inventory and appear to be playing it more carefully.
Hubby says something about the recession and something else that I do not hear about the economy as I finish my check-out. The woman responds to him with some comment I miss and he looks at a loss for words. I grab my bags of clothes and turn to leave as the woman leans in close to hubby's ear and says something to him in a low voice.
As we are leaving the store and out of her hearing, I ask him what she said.
He takes a deep breath, "When all the goodies are gone, just make sure you have your gun loaded and ready."
And yet, she had looked so absolutely normal.
Tuesday, December 11, 2012
Continuing with the Holidays
I have little to add this week as I am up to my eyes in Christmas wrapping paper and there seems to be various amounts of scotch tape in my hair that I cannot get out. I have misplaced the scissors once again yet I know they are somewhere here on the floor where I am sitting under tags and ribbons and boxes. I refuse to get up and look around, because at my age getting up off the floor requires and Act of Congress and I find it almost impossible to get back down again.
Speaking of Congress no one from there sent me a single Christmas card! And I did send a number of those folks money this past year. But I got a 'BUNCH' of cards from the White House--each time asking me for money and I thought my candidate of choice had won that election? Anyway, I thought I would share two of my favorites that came in the mail. No matter who is in office I always love their pets!
Speaking of Congress no one from there sent me a single Christmas card! And I did send a number of those folks money this past year. But I got a 'BUNCH' of cards from the White House--each time asking me for money and I thought my candidate of choice had won that election? Anyway, I thought I would share two of my favorites that came in the mail. No matter who is in office I always love their pets!
Friday, December 07, 2012
The Annual Visitor
There it sits with patience, or is it insolence, in a dark corner of the basement. Plastic green sheeting with bright red handles protects it from dust and mice droppings. Every year it gains weight. What does it eat down here? It has melded into its little corner with such fossilized determination and like a big fat dog it fights our every tug and pull to break it free from other large unidentifiable objects.
Finally it falls between us with a soft whoosh like a beached green whale just inches from our toes. Hubby lifts the heavy end and I lift the other heavy end. We both grunt and groan and wonder if we really want to do this. Every year we put off the task until we reach a tipping point in time. The lump gets bumped and dragged past the covered unused dining room table, past the antique doll house and over the threshold toward the stairs. This is where we wipe our brows and put our courage to the sticking place. At our age this could be a life or death decision.
With hands tightly grabbing canvas and stitched pulls we drag it ever so slowly over each wooden step up to the main floor using our (my) body weight to prevent it from running back down the stairs and taking me with it. At the main level it is like a heavy dust mop as we pull it down the hallway. It accordians various throw rugs until it reaches the designated place: the bay window. This means we no longer have a place to eat breakfast.
We should feel successful at this juncture, but an even greater effort and struggle awaits us our expended energies. We catch our breath.
Hidden in the dense plastic branches, there are green tips to match green holes, red tips to match red holes and black tips which are impossible to see to match anything. Then buried deeper in the darkness of the plastic pine needles, there are numerous male and female plugs, so many that we have never been able to count them all. One year long ago when I was determined I labeled them AA, BB, CC, DD. We have never again found the DDs in the dense green. There is one string of lights that no longer lights (perhaps related to the DDs) and we must add our own little string across that area.
After an hour in which we do not swear because it IS the holiday season, we have a perfectly symmetrical plastic tree in place. It does not smell of pine, but smells of age and mildew, a perfect tree for old people. We tweak the ends of various wire branches turned inward like the bowed head of a timid dog that has been subdued by its master and does not want to be here. Then we decorate each branch in red and gold glass ornaments because it is an adult tree with sophistication and no whimsy as all the family ornaments have been given to the children now that they have their own homes.
Once it is lit sharing all its glory we remember why we go through this every year. It cleans up pretty good and so does my floor!
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Finally it falls between us with a soft whoosh like a beached green whale just inches from our toes. Hubby lifts the heavy end and I lift the other heavy end. We both grunt and groan and wonder if we really want to do this. Every year we put off the task until we reach a tipping point in time. The lump gets bumped and dragged past the covered unused dining room table, past the antique doll house and over the threshold toward the stairs. This is where we wipe our brows and put our courage to the sticking place. At our age this could be a life or death decision.
With hands tightly grabbing canvas and stitched pulls we drag it ever so slowly over each wooden step up to the main floor using our (my) body weight to prevent it from running back down the stairs and taking me with it. At the main level it is like a heavy dust mop as we pull it down the hallway. It accordians various throw rugs until it reaches the designated place: the bay window. This means we no longer have a place to eat breakfast.
We should feel successful at this juncture, but an even greater effort and struggle awaits us our expended energies. We catch our breath.
Hidden in the dense plastic branches, there are green tips to match green holes, red tips to match red holes and black tips which are impossible to see to match anything. Then buried deeper in the darkness of the plastic pine needles, there are numerous male and female plugs, so many that we have never been able to count them all. One year long ago when I was determined I labeled them AA, BB, CC, DD. We have never again found the DDs in the dense green. There is one string of lights that no longer lights (perhaps related to the DDs) and we must add our own little string across that area.
After an hour in which we do not swear because it IS the holiday season, we have a perfectly symmetrical plastic tree in place. It does not smell of pine, but smells of age and mildew, a perfect tree for old people. We tweak the ends of various wire branches turned inward like the bowed head of a timid dog that has been subdued by its master and does not want to be here. Then we decorate each branch in red and gold glass ornaments because it is an adult tree with sophistication and no whimsy as all the family ornaments have been given to the children now that they have their own homes.
Once it is lit sharing all its glory we remember why we go through this every year. It cleans up pretty good and so does my floor!
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Thursday, December 06, 2012
Action vs Reaction
Continuing on a theme from the prior post.
This is why (not really) that I no longer go to church. I wonder what the parishioners' "helping the poor" programs are like, because in spite of their misinterpretation of that quote from the Bible, Jesus did preach that we help the poor. Do they offer free gun training or free ammunition to poor families at Christmas? It reminds me of the dorm at the Colorado University that was set aside this year for students who wanted to bring their guns to college. Keeping a concealed weapon is so important to learning. No one signed up, which gave me hope that we were not returning to the uncivilized wild west where we must be ready to defend ourselves daily using violence. There are those who live in fear of almost everything and need to stock up on food, water, guns and prayer with the belief that victory goes to those who are prepared for the very worst. There are those who feel there is a master plan of which we are a small part or if no master plan is unfolding, then we must accept that each day is an energy of events and we can control it to a small extent by the way we live our lives. But the greater control we have is how we react over time to what happens to us. You know which one I am.
This is why (not really) that I no longer go to church. I wonder what the parishioners' "helping the poor" programs are like, because in spite of their misinterpretation of that quote from the Bible, Jesus did preach that we help the poor. Do they offer free gun training or free ammunition to poor families at Christmas? It reminds me of the dorm at the Colorado University that was set aside this year for students who wanted to bring their guns to college. Keeping a concealed weapon is so important to learning. No one signed up, which gave me hope that we were not returning to the uncivilized wild west where we must be ready to defend ourselves daily using violence. There are those who live in fear of almost everything and need to stock up on food, water, guns and prayer with the belief that victory goes to those who are prepared for the very worst. There are those who feel there is a master plan of which we are a small part or if no master plan is unfolding, then we must accept that each day is an energy of events and we can control it to a small extent by the way we live our lives. But the greater control we have is how we react over time to what happens to us. You know which one I am.
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