Monday, May 14, 2018
Hoping you had a nice Mother's Day if you are a mother. I am not super comfortable with this holiday because I do have friends and relatives that lost their mother when they were very young, early teens or one in college. For those who have gone through this tragedy, it may bring up days of sweet memories and for others a deep longing for all that they missed. I will be attending the wedding of a young man that lost his mother when he was about ten. He lives on the other side of the country and I do not get to see him as much as I would like.
My daughter-in-law has recently learned that she will probably not be able to have children and her sister learned the same fate years ago. They both married later in their lives which complicates things. I think they have both decided not to try adoption, so it appears her parents will never have the joy of grandkids, and they are special people and would have made wonderful grandparents.
This Mother's Day, while special for many, carries baggage for me. I had a complicated relationship with my Mother. She was judgemental and overworked and angry much of the time. I understand it all now but did not when I was a young girl which she burdened and guilted with chores.
I got a call from my distant son late that evening (certainly prompted by his wife) and nothing from my busy daughter who is a very wonderful mother in her own right. But they know I would not guilt them about their actions or inactions on this day. We love each other with or without holidays to remind us.
Anyway, for those who have children, I hope your day was filled with attention and honor by those you worked so hard to raise.