Thursday, July 30, 2020

No One Gives Ideas on Handling the Somewhat Odd parts of Life



My husband seems to find an excuse to run an errand at least once a day.  Home confinement drives him crazy as he is a people person.  I am not.  I like people well enough, but unfortunately, I like them better across the Internet or through an email.  I think I fall short in the friendliness skill area.  I find I spend a bit more time on Facebook visiting others virtually as they handle the pandemic.

Friko asked if we could go out.  Our state is one that shut down early and has been able to maintain a flat line with few upticks.  Therefore, our stores are open, our restaurants are open as long as the food is served outside and tables are at half capacity, our doctors and dentists are accepting appointments if you are feeling it necessary.  Other retail outlets are also open.  We are required to wear masks in all indoor spaces and wear masks when we cannot distance outside.  We can now drive more than 100 miles from home and the few states to the north of us will let us in!!  I used hand sanitizer on myself and all over the car handles, etc. when I get home.

I still place the mail in a box by the door and then later spray with alcohol before I open it.  It may be a useless precaution, but we are dealing with life and death here.  I wipe down the wine bottles when I pull them out of the cooler for use and sometimes the boxes of food depending on how I feel.

We do not take trips yet, except that one to the historic city I wrote about earlier.  We got out in the canoe and the motor boat...but even those have been delayed due to the horrendous 90 degree days here.

I mentioned Facebook and wanted to write about two friends that seem to be messaging me quite often with rather long talks back and forth.  I am not really close to either of these people.  I met them at my son's wedding years ago and have not seen them personally since.  One is a former CIA person who now works for the emergency services in his state and the other is a young man who works on computer tech stuff near Glasgow, Scotland.  They both are in their early 40's and not married.  While we only talk about things like gardening or in the case of my Scottish friend, how he wants to dress up when he can finally get out and celebrate at a nearby bar... I do often wonder why they message an old lady like me.  They both have parents they are close to because I see the posts on FB.  They both have expressed a wish to find that "someone special" so maybe they are thinking I may know some single girls...which I actually do!  But cannot imagine how in this time and distance I could work out something.

Anyway, I cannot help but wonder if there was no pandemic, would I be juggling this unusual virtual friendship?  Life is funny and odd but, man, if I could hook these very nice men up, I would!!

16 comments:

  1. Breathing....this Pandemic has altered all of our lives. When other things like your hubbie or my cancer happens, it gives the altered another direction entirely. Last night I tripped over a rug and fell on the upstairs toilet with a horriying, wet crash. Today while G bought and installed The new and much taller toilet, I spent 4 hours washing and drying every towel we own. I never had time to notice much beyond the mountain of folding I had to do. It really was kind of funny.

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  2. You are a matchmaker at heart.

    The Covid lifestyle here keeps us isolated except for our daughter and the kids. We get out and about but on trails and boardwalks, socially distanced. Life is changed but what an you do?

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  3. I think that may be fairly common during this, reaching out for contact in the only way we can really. my state just passed NY for total infections and that covidiot Trump here today tweeted that Texas is doing great, cases are going down!

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  4. So nice of these young men (and you for wanting to find someone for them!) When I was young, I always enjoyed visiting my older neighbors. A lot can be learned from wisdom of older people! Stay safe and well. Andrea

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  5. Age and distance don't seem to matter as much when it is mainly just words on screens.

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  6. While we do miss a lot of non-verbal cues in this kind of communication, at the same time, i think it is a great equalizer. If we have things in common, we can discuss and enjoy them, and not even know the age or gender of the other person sometimes.

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  7. My trips recently have been to medical facilities. I am battling some side effects of post surgical medications. I'm a miserable mess, but my back is healing well. I do a lot of sitting and rocking.
    I think I might be short in the friendship department too, but i do like on line visiting. I think it's great that you have befriended these two young men.

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  8. Several of your commenters are friends of mine, like you are, virtual but essential. I miss some of my dear friends right here in town, some of whom I haven't seen in months. I enjoy visiting with my hiking buddies via Zoom, and taking to the trails with one of them weekly. Everyone here is using masks now, indoors and out. It's quite nice to see. :-)

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  9. facebook has been my only social contact and it wasn't how I thought it'd be. When we came down here in November, we intended we'd be back at the farm in June but also that we'd put more effort into finding local friends. I am not one of those who needs a lot of friends, but mine now are all in Oregon and I miss the contact. Even introverts need a few close friends. And now, I have no idea how long this will go on with such limitations. Virtual contacts aren't the same as sitting on the patio and drinking coffee or tea. but for now, it's the main thing for me.

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  10. "I still place the mail in a box by the door and then later spray with alcohol before I open it." We do this also... same with all the groceries we bring home from curb side pickup. Is it necessary? I don't know, but might as well be cautious. Friend came by and dropped off honey (from her bees) and a new supply of books - we talked through the open car window (masked of course), but so strange as I wanted so much to invite her inside for coffee - but that's a 'no go' these days.

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  11. Face it...You are a fabulous smart good witty person anyone would be thankful to chat with typing or talking.

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  12. I like my own company but the inability to wander freely is stultifying and not having coffee with friends is something I miss. Glad you have match making skills but I reckon we all fall in love by our own efforts.

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  13. Every day we have been out. i stay inn the truck.
    Do you read this magazine?

    https://www.hakaimagazine.com/features/the-tale-of-dirty-old-leaky-zalinski/

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  14. Hope you are ok and ducked the hurricane.

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  15. You're probably an interesting correspondent to those young men, plus since you're married and older, They may consider you non-threatening if they don't really want a relationship as you envisage.

    I allow packages to sit for several days before handling as i have some mail, but haven't sprayed or wiped the mail down though i do generally use hand spray or wash my hands afterward.

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  16. I'm with you, Tabor...I have no desire to be out and about all the time. I keep to myself. :)

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