Tuesday, December 30, 2008

The Dinner

The restaurant she had selected was a high-end seafood chain located in the Galleria near the more expensive stores. She had hoped that the empty parking spaces outside were a clue that the restaurant would be quiet inside, but the holiday season had packed both the bar at the front and the tables in the various rooms with festive customers.

She and her husband were led to a room near the far back and that helped reduce the din. Trying to look a little fashionable, she had carefully dressed in a loose fitting black turtle neck sweater and a faux suede skirt cut on the bias that allowed her new tan and dark brown cowboy boots to show. The weather had turned unusually warm which meant the brown tights she had decided to wear instead of a slip were making her a little uncomfortable. Her husband, who spent much of the last few weeks in jeans and sweatshirts, had found it more difficult to dress wanting to wear the new mock turtleneck sweater he had gotten as a gift and finding most of his slacks too dressy for the casual knit. He finally decided on a faded pair of Dockers. They looked like a typical middle class retired couple pushing unsuccessfully for an upper middle class look.

Their waiter arrived almost immediately upon being seated. His head was covered by a thick heavy thatch of dark hair shooting every which way and his face was covered by a dark beard making him look very much like a terrorist rather than a waiter, but his smile was easy as he filled the water glasses. She ordered a holiday cocktail to help her relax and her husband ordered the usual soda water.

They both checked their phones for messages and then made idle conversation hiding the slight tension as they waited for the third party to arrive. She had called him twice during the afternoon and didn't get an answer. Finally she pressed upon her husband to call him once again just before they parked the car, and that was when their son returned the call to say he was finishing the final load of laundry and would be running a little late.

They were in the middle of the 'calamari trio' appetizer when their son showed up dressed casually and with his favorite torn jeans. (Did every pair he owned have torn pockets?) He order a soda and she had mixed feelings about his avoidance of a bottle of beer. It was good because he had to drive out later to his apartment and meet up with friends for the rest of his birthday celebration, but she wondered if this meant he would keep his guard up during the entire meal.

Small talk about the crowds and the holidays and the sales drifted into talk about the Christmas day memories with the little toddlers. She and her husband ordered the special with the recommended glass of wine. By the time they were well into their entrees the conversation had drifted comfortably into politics and religion. The subjects that all were in agreement on and safe in discussing during the rest of the meal.

As the final espresso was ordered her son began a story about a friend of his and the friend's girlfriend at a recent night out. Her son had been scolded by the girlfriend because he had brought another friend of his with two twenty-something sisters who were in town for the holiday. The girlfriend seemed to think he was trying to fix her boyfriend up with one of the sisters and angrily reprimanded him, and the whole event sounded like the Bachelorette or one of those other inane junior high level reality shows of this thirty-something generation where the women are so insecure that only 20k of plastic surgery will calm them down.

At the end of the story, her son smiled and said he felt sorry for his friend and then said he was glad he wasn't dating anyone right now.

They paid the bill and then walked to their cars and exchanged some gifts and Christmas cookies she had made. She hugged and kissed him goodbye and drank in the smell of him under the aftershave, perhaps clinging a little too long as she knew it would probably be months before she could get their paths to cross again. He opened the door to his car and gave them that familiar sideways smile and little wave before he ducked inside.

Well, she thought to herself, that went as well as can be expected.

6 comments:

  1. Tabor, loved the story. I know you looked great with your new cowboy boots. You have 2 children and I have 4. Imagine the difference in each one of their lifestyles.

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  2. Thanks so much One Woman for understanding!

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  3. WOW.
    Beautifully written story....
    Happy, healthy New Year to you and yours, Tabor.

    xoxo

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  4. thanks so much for sharing this story. it made me a little sad. i hope one day this relationship flows with more ease for everyone. since he is feeling vulnerable right now he may be even more guarded than usual. he got some serious reinforcement for being single, didn't he - i feel sorry for his friend, too!

    i wish you had photos to go with the chic fashion descriptions!

    i hope 2009 brings you and your husband many days of shared joys, a year of good health, a few interesting challenges, and some exciting surprises! happy, happy new year, tabor! i enjoy so much reading your blog and having you as a virtual friend!

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  5. Thanks for sharing this - I enjoyed all the little details, right down to the waiter's hair.

    A good friend of mine had little or no communication her grown up daughter, (after a divorce when the daughter kept only in touch with her father) She was only once invited to see her new grandaughter. But she kept her distance and didnt push things,despite deep longings to see them both. However, things slowly thawed from the other end, but still she took the pace at their speed. Three years on - she has been invited more often, Christmas Day even. AND she has been asked to babysit one night this week! It was a hard wait, but worth it.

    Keep the faith.

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  6. This story struck a chord with me. I think I know how you feel. Thanks for putting it into words.

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