Wednesday, November 30, 2005

It all depends on what IT really IS

By my way of thinking (and occasionally I do think before I blog) we live in a culture where the look of everything is more important than the core reality and function of the thing itself.

For instance, we are told that we should exercise and eat well for good health. Yet anyone who does this and still looks chunky is not regarded as healthy by the general observer, even though their health may be better than the skinny person standing next to them who exercises rarely and eats a quick donut and coffee for breakfast. It is all about the superficial look. Not the color of the skin and the healthy glow of the hair.

We envy that designer bag that is an ugly color and doesn't hold stuff very efficiently, but costs lots of money and sends the message that we are rich (and also stupid with our richness). It's not about what the bag does, but the message it sends.

We buy fruit in the grocery store that no longer tastes like freshly picked fruit with the juice of its season, but tastes like cardboard fruit. BUT the appearance of the fruit is perfect in color (maybe enhanced) and certainly perfect in shape. We don't tolerate any blemishes on those perfect orbs, while sacrificing freshness. It is about how it looks, not what it is.

We idolize athletes that win games and break records, yet they are running on steroids and metal pins and pain killers and braces. They are not exactly their original selves anymore.

We worship entertainment icons that are usually more plastic and toxic botoxed than real---especially the women. Their talent alone is not enough to hold our interest and our honor for their hard work. They must NEVER show their real age. We are amazed that pregnant celebrities are back in shape days after giving birth while real mothers actually look like the mothers they are--which is the real parent? (Watch British television for a refreshing change in making older people the primary characters in the television stories. They appear with their weight problems, faded teeth and all and BBC casts the younger people who actually look like the real girl or boy next door!)

And finally, the McMansions that we build are not to shelter our loved ones. They are hugh cavernous entities with specialized rooms that may never be used or never even furnished. It is not about the function of our dwellings anymore. A house is not a home.

(By the way, talking about reality vs image, did anybody see that terrible lip synching job Mariah Carey did at the Lions vs. Atlanta Falcons
football game halftime? It all depends on what singing really is, I guess.)


  1. Amen and Amen, Tabor. Missed Maria Carey.
    No loss on my part, I am sure.

    My daughter and I read an article on how they airbrush the people in magazines. It was quite the eye opener, the things they can do to an image.

  2. I have often wondered why young couples buy such huge homes, and then never have any children to fill them. Is is because they want to stay as far away from one another at times?

  3. You have truly hit the nail on the head here. I missed the Mariah Carey thing too but I've never been overly impressed with that young lady.
    The house thing in your post really got to me ... my sister and her husband (who married in their early 40s and never planned to have children) live in a huge sprawling near-mansion with more guest rooms than everyday rooms. To me, this was nothing more than a showy overkill. Yet, people are doing it all the time.

    As Ed told me once when I got particularly discouraged looking at some movie star who had just had a baby and looked like a million bucks ... "Of course she can look that way ... what with personal trainers and someone making all her diet meals for her, counting her calories ... someone else doing her make up and hair and a full time nanny for the baby so she can get her beauty sleep - what would you expect?" Gosh I love this man!


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