Thursday, April 12, 2018
I Knew That Already
I use Facebook more than many people do, but I do not judge those who will have nothing to do with this social networking site, like my husband. I like to keep in touch with friends who live hundreds of miles away. I am somewhat restrictive in my criteria for accepting FB friends and I have written about that before. I usually like to at least have met the person. I have made a few exceptions. In one case the person and I grew close through blogs and the person also had a terrible illness which at least restricted travel on their part. We were probably destined never to meet in real life. In another instance, one of my close relatives was going through a difficult time and one of her colleagues asked to become my friend on FB. I accepted that just to be able to see how my close relative might be doing from another's perspective without actually discussing it!
I know exactly how many friends I have on FB. I keep it as close to 100 as I can. I have very few FB friends here in my community, but I do have a few. I am very political on FB.
I have not answered friend requests from a few co-workers that I did not become close to when we worked together or that I thought were not generally "nice" people. My judgment---my call, and I am sure others might just judge me the same way.
I have lost only one friend over the decade or so and this was a distant relative who could not stand my political postings. He 'unfriended' me. It was sad because he would post "photos" of the "rape" of the Ambassador in the Benghazi debacle and other questionable links. The photos were not true and violent and fed his conservative fire, and I never pointed out that sources are essential when attempting to post facts. I let him post what he wanted. He was young, an ex-marine and a gun-lover. He had lots of problems with romance in his life, lost his access to his toddler daughter due to his anger, and this was and is sad. We had a few attempts at face-to-face conversations on his goals and direction in life, but you cannot change the spots on some leopards. He had been a great marine, which is a structure many people need and his life stalled a little after he left.
Now to the title. I know that the 'world' knows all of this about me. I have taken a few of those quizzes, so they know my exercise, food, personality, travel preferences, and my habits and my spending profile. I did not take many because I realized this data was being compiled elsewhere. ( I was not smart enough to think about the Russians, but I did think about Pakistan and ID theft.)
I downloaded my FB archive today and it is a surprising history walk, because we do forget the intimate conversations we might have with others. I am glad that at least others are aware of this. Elders have less to lose in terms of information compromised, but just as much to lose in terms of ID theft.
If you have bought anything on the Internet outside of FB, they also have your data. I have been informed by Target, Office of Management and Budget, Experian, and some others that my data has been stolen which is more than a credit card number. So let us all blame that shy, awkward nerd, Zuckerberg and ignore all those millionaire CEO's that are storing their money overseas while selling out data to others or at the very least being lazy in keeping it safe.