I am going to have lunch or dinner with my best friend from high school and college days. While we are very different, our history together has made us soulmates. Anyone who reads this in the next 24 hours can comment...I have a question. Should I allow hubby to come? This is an important question because of the following facts:
I love my husband dearly.
I have not seen this gal in years.
I love her dearly.
My husband tends to take over a conversation most times.
I usually don't care.
I have not had a girly night or time out in ages.
What do you think?
I am not setting this up for a specific answer...really.
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I have never been married, so my thoughts may be out of whack. But my oldest sister has been married since 1968 and she recently met up with her old college chum. She did not take her husband.
This may sound like a cop out on my part, but can you meet your friend for a little bit of time alone and then have your husband come later for coffee/dessert? Is that too harsh? I think I am always trying to please and include everybody.
I know he had some medical procedure recently. Is he able to drive on his own? My suggestion may not be a possibility if he can't drive.
Go alone definitely. You and your friend need to catch up with each other and talk about old times and what's happening with the two of you now. You husband would be bored with the small talk and would turn the conversation around to subjects of interest to him. as in
ReplyDelete"Enough about you, let's talk about me" :)
I say go alone. I definitely would!
ReplyDeletego alone! girlfriend chatter without the presence of our men is more fun, i think, despite how adorable a hubby may be. i just spent time with my oldest gf yesterday without mine, and it was fabulous! the first time we have had alone in at least 10 years since we are on different coasts and when we travel the men are with us!
ReplyDeleteLeave your husband at home! You can see your husband every day, and if you want your friend and your husband to meet, there'll be time after this first meal together after years.
ReplyDeleteWhen you get together with someone after many years, there are a lot of old stories to catch up with, two is plenty to do that. Three is a crowd ;)
I have faced similar dilemmas - in a few days I will celebrate being married 45 years –
ReplyDeleteThere is a joy to marriage – there is a joy to being myself - (often that means being who I am alone not as part of a couple) My longest friendship has lasted since I was four years old – nothing (ok - nothing short of a catastrophy or disaster or emergency or ...) would keep me from visiting with my friend, just the two of us, if she were to come to town…
I can't imagine taking anyone with me to see a friend I hadn't seen in years. I would want it to just be us. Later, of course, your husband, but at first -- just the two of you.
ReplyDeleteGirl friends are precious! Nuff said.
ReplyDeleteI agree with all the comments you got. Go meet your friend alone. It should be time just for the two of you, a three person would change the feeling of the visit especially since you have not seen each other for a long time.
ReplyDeleteEven if it isn't a visit with an old friend, a third person changes the entire time, If two people know each other very well and a third person joins in, it's different. It depends on the relationship with the people.
Sometimes you welcome the third party and sometimes not.
In this case, I wouldn't take mine. I never let him come to my class reunions either.
ReplyDeleteI would leave husband home. You & your friend have a lot to catch up on, & a special bond. Husband's presence will interfere with you & her, and will also force the conversations into areas that also include him -- not necessarily the good girl friend bonding you're craving. He can meet her another time.
ReplyDeleteWell, I know I'm chiming in late, but I agree with every other commenter. I hope you had a great time catching up!
ReplyDeleteI'd say make it a girly night for sure :)
ReplyDeleteHave fun and enjoy your time away!
I am WAY too late, but I trust the hubby stayed home.
ReplyDeleteWell, this is way late.
ReplyDeleteI'm a guy, I hope you went alone, you should have