Took the morning off from work to take hubby to the therapist. He still is not supposed to drive while on the drugs. (I think that he will be able to drive this weekend though.) The therapist DIDN'T schedule any therapy sessions! He said hubby was in such good shape and had such great flexibility that it would be a waste of time to try to improve in a 'clinical' atmosphere. So, he gave him some exercises to do once a day at home for a while and then every other day. He said that hubby had the best recovery he had every seen in a patient! Needless to say hubby is on cloud 9. He is also already on the phone to his office starting work via phone.
H. said something strange on the drive to the therapist. He said that he hadn't really realized how complicated a marriage relationship was and how important it was to share your life with the right person. (See, staying home for two weeks to wait on him hand and foot rang a bell somewhere ;-). He had been feeling very vulnerable and was so dependent on my thinking for day to day decisions in addition to just providing daily care for him.
I guess we women have felt the 'vulnerable' mode more often by virtue of the barriers to our gender. I also think women are more willing to compromise and sacrifice in an immediate time and worry about the ramifications down the road. We want the problems worked out. That is probably why we get stuck in bad marriages as we think if just compromise a little longer it will work itself out.
Great news indeed! Comes to show how important it is to have an active lifestyle. I'd venture to guess that he wouldn't have the same outcome from his surgery had he been a couch potato.
ReplyDeleteI know what you mean about sacrifice and compromise :) Although men may say they do the same, but in different ways, perhaps? I think sometimes a true test of a marriage happens when one partner gets sick or is incapacitated in some way... it can be just as hard on the one who has to do the looking after, and wow does it require a lot of patience (which I tend to be lacking of, especially in stressful situations).