tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8039370.post7367913808490063027..comments2024-03-24T01:58:13.060-04:00Comments on One Day at a Time: Who Are You? Is That a Resolution?Taborhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15257045780724471840noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8039370.post-83348163765043411622013-12-07T18:05:55.521-05:002013-12-07T18:05:55.521-05:00This is a nice essay, Tabor. Mellowness is a quali...This is a nice essay, Tabor. Mellowness is a quality that is difficult to increase or decrease. Seems like we're born, or perhaps nurtured to have a certain amount of it, period.<br /><br />And of course in Aesop's fable of the ant and the grasshopper, you would be the well-rewarded ant in the end.<br /><br />Congrats on your potw!Kerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281288495129054688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8039370.post-45543002595486805932013-12-07T12:37:47.724-05:002013-12-07T12:37:47.724-05:00What a thoughtful post; very insightful. Our upbri...What a thoughtful post; very insightful. Our upbringing does impact us for much of our life, but we can always change, difficult though that may be. You sound like a very responsible, rule-following person and there is really nothing wrong with that. I say that because I'm the same way. :) Congrats on your POTW!Gail Dixonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15697820311332653232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8039370.post-59265666984724419762013-12-07T08:01:43.325-05:002013-12-07T08:01:43.325-05:00You speak from your heart...and from reading this,...You speak from your heart...and from reading this, I think you have a tender one. Jackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01214796594702277709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8039370.post-3368157105364211782013-12-07T07:43:24.128-05:002013-12-07T07:43:24.128-05:00I am glad Hilary hilited this piece. What I do kno...I am glad Hilary hilited this piece. What I do know is that it takes all kinds and that every way of being in this world has merit. For example, I would presume that your drive and focus opens the door for others to be more contemplative. Both Mary and Martha had their uses and their faults.Anvilcloudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07974744042579564912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8039370.post-56423376709498033092013-12-03T14:38:39.465-05:002013-12-03T14:38:39.465-05:00It's interesting that the majority of us tend ...It's interesting that the majority of us tend to look back at our parents and upbringing to figure out why we are the way we are, which is probably a good indicator.<br /><br />Lately, I've asked myself if I need to change, or do others need to accept me for who I truly am.<br /><br />Luckily, I'm not "extreme" in many areas of my life and don't hear too many complaints Anitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08180243708565855383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8039370.post-2232132289052800522013-12-02T13:30:38.248-05:002013-12-02T13:30:38.248-05:00I was the elder of two but am not a driven person ...I was the elder of two but am not a driven person at all. There are a lot of things I take seriously and devote my time to, however. Hattiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13297404386730167834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8039370.post-47347180545985993892013-12-02T11:57:05.636-05:002013-12-02T11:57:05.636-05:00I had to mull this one over a bit. I am the oldest...I had to mull this one over a bit. I am the oldest, but I must have missed out on the "driven" gene. I don't make myself crazy, but I do like to feel and be seen as "accomplished" and when I was a child and throughout my teens I would hide disappointments from my parents as I wanted them to always be pleased with me...I never wanted them to think I was hurt, or sad, or Lonely Rivershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06419404284743404488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8039370.post-43247730605871362102013-12-02T02:21:15.180-05:002013-12-02T02:21:15.180-05:00I am you. Second in a family of seven children, w...I am you. Second in a family of seven children, we were poor and learned to work hard. "Always do your best" was ingrained in us.<br />I think we all would like to change things about ourselves, but we also need to embrace who we are and be ok with that. We have many traits that others admire.Linda Reederhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07665601809156707572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8039370.post-45905566335078989932013-12-01T23:27:03.803-05:002013-12-01T23:27:03.803-05:00I understand. Raised in a family of four, my mothe...I understand. Raised in a family of four, my mother made excuses for everyone else. I was expected to not need that grace. <br /><br />Maybe someday we can pick flowers together.Midlife Roadtripperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06700277803842883251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8039370.post-42348059492384358882013-12-01T00:14:24.588-05:002013-12-01T00:14:24.588-05:00Having kids is like looking in a mirror, isn't...Having kids is like looking in a mirror, isn't it? Mine are always showing me ways I need to grow or improve, whether they know it or not. Good luck to all of us!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8039370.post-24659352571295018342013-11-30T19:50:16.973-05:002013-11-30T19:50:16.973-05:00I relate. Just had a big dream about my mother la...I relate. Just had a big dream about my mother last night in which she said (and hurt my feelings) "she's trying to claim me." There was a dress for me that was never claimed and that we supposed she bought, but it did not fit or suit me. <br /><br />Today a friend of Josh's was trying to figure me out because I guess I am a paradox (country girl who won't drink out of a colleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16669375650785054059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8039370.post-62337674053384252222013-11-30T19:18:44.736-05:002013-11-30T19:18:44.736-05:00I am the oldest of four. There must be something ...I am the oldest of four. There must be something to birth order. I probably was whole lot less driven, and held back for fear of failure though.Olgahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00692441479616299920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8039370.post-21484454094964615742013-11-30T17:22:12.990-05:002013-11-30T17:22:12.990-05:00Eldest of four here and what you wrote really reso...Eldest of four here and what you wrote really resonated with me. For a long time I couldn't work, cook, or whatever until my workspace was set up correctly. I made a job out of everything until I had two little boys who just wouldn't conform to my driven ways. They taught me to play, maybe for the first time. All my play was competitive sports until high school and in my forties. I haveCeliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14485118642482033233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8039370.post-92111056113538103742013-11-30T16:37:31.066-05:002013-11-30T16:37:31.066-05:00I was also an oldest. I am not sure how old you ar...I was also an oldest. I am not sure how old you are, Tabor but younger than me and in my 50s, i went through a lot of changes, being willing to explore and now at 70, I am quite happy with who I am-- give or take 20 lbs. It's not that I feel so much better physically but a lot of those questions about my identity got answered and the knowledge I didn't much are what others thought, that Rain Trueaxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07994628226501093880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8039370.post-21383725776494285012013-11-30T15:52:28.739-05:002013-11-30T15:52:28.739-05:00It's not easy being an oldest of siblings. It...It's not easy being an oldest of siblings. It does seem to make the parents expect you to be the "little adult" of the bunch. It was my job to prevent my two younger brothers from fighting, as if that were possible.messymimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649529601786689712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8039370.post-81157721742278597152013-11-30T15:51:23.838-05:002013-11-30T15:51:23.838-05:00Beautiful insight. I can't say that I'm th...Beautiful insight. I can't say that I'm the same as you, but I am very much alike when it comes to the pride I feel in how my sons turned out and how I very much want to strive to be like them. They got it so right. How did that happen? Must be their Dad (my ex). He's a good man.Hilaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12787493532006658679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8039370.post-41638691700232496812013-11-30T14:29:56.444-05:002013-11-30T14:29:56.444-05:00I don't think I'm as driven as you are, bu...I don't think I'm as driven as you are, but when I set myself the task of doing something I can't stop until it's perfect. This has caused friction in my family, but not lately.stephen Hayeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17659054447637207734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8039370.post-78556980501009420162013-11-30T11:41:39.071-05:002013-11-30T11:41:39.071-05:00Tabor,
we are much alike :) I was the oldest of 3 ...Tabor,<br />we are much alike :) I was the oldest of 3 and so much expected of me. I still expect more then I should of myself and trying to be different. Well aware that I have changed some but not enough.<br />One Woman's Journey - a journal being written from Woodhaven - her cottage in the woods.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12548226150115102345noreply@blogger.com